Dear Prudence,
I am not close with my sister at all. During our parents’ divorce, she chose to go live with our dad overseas and rarely came home to visit, even as an adult. It broke my mom’s heart, and she desperately tried to build a relationship with my sister, but my sister wasn’t interested. Our mother died during the pandemic and there was no service. I thought that would be the last time my sister and I would ever speak. Only my sister has recently reached out. She and her partner have moved back to the U.S., and she is pregnant. She wants to have a fresh start with me. I don’t really see the point. She is basically a stranger who happens to share some DNA with me. I am never going to be able to forgive or forget how my sister treated our mother the last few years of her life. I don’t want to hurt my sister now, but I don’t see the point of hashing out the past here. What do I say?
—Estranged in the East