I'm reaching out for some guidance as I navigate a difficult decision regarding two weddings scheduled on the same date. My sister (F 22) and my husband’s brother (M 26) are both getting married, and I'm torn about which event to attend.
To provide some context, my relationship with my sister has always been strained, particularly highlighted during my own wedding three years ago. She not only made the bridesmaid dress shopping experience unpleasant with her attitude and snide remarks, but she also arrived late to our scheduled hair and makeup appointment on the morning of my wedding. Additionally, she chose to wear white shoes and nails, which caused some discomfort on my special day.
Despite these challenges, I included her in my wedding party out of familial obligation. However, now that she's planning her own wedding, she has made it clear that she doesn't want me to be part of her bridal party, which has been hurtful. It's worth noting that she has our brother in the wedding as a groomsman.
On the other hand, my husband's brother and his fiancée have graciously invited me to be a bridesmaid in their wedding, and my husband is the best man.
Given the strained relationship with my sister and the opportunity to support my husband's family, I'm leaning towards attending my brother-in-law's wedding. However, this decision is causing tension within my family, particularly with my parents, who insist that as the older sibling, I should do the right thing.
I'm really struggling with what to do here. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance.