Make extra food or break up with her.

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,

My girlfriend is driving me nuts. I am something of a foodie and love to cook. I will often make extra for my lunch the next day. My girlfriend has the bad habit of telling me she isn’t hungry and then turning around and wanting my food after I am done, meaning then I don’t have anything for lunch the next day. Our apartment is tiny so there isn’t a lot of extra storage, especially in the kitchen. I have to put some effort into planning out meals. She works weird hours and doesn’t keep regular meals. I would be fine with that if she wasn’t constantly changing her mind. The last time, I threw her a frozen burrito and told her to use the microwave. She got extremely mad at me. I love her but I can’t get her to see how disrespectful this is. How do I get through to her?

—Foodie Facts

MNNEBride

I agree.  Make enough for her and, if she doesn't eat, you'll have more 

Casadena

This would annoy the crap out of me. Labeling is "disrespectful" is a little ridiculous though. LW, your options are make her food just in case, or deal with it. Or break up with her I guess, but what a dumb reason to break up with someone.

ei34

I’d just make more.

charlotte989875

Why is it so hard to make more food. Either she eats it or you do. 

mrsconn23

I'm notoriously bitchy about my leftovers.  DH and I have had a row or two because he's eaten *my* food.  LOL

But this?  Ridiculous.  Both of them, but more LW than the GF.  

Yes, it is shitty of her to eat your leftovers after stating she wasn't hungry, but you also admit she keeps a different schedule than you so your mealtimes do not align.  After the first time, you should have just assumed tripling the recipe and avoided this whole ridiculous exercise. 

Are you silently seething until you throw a burrito at her head? Or have you had a non-accusatory conversation or two with her?  If you have actually *talked* to her, what did she say?  

I have a feeling LW hasn't said anything to her and is being a passive-aggressive asshole.  

levioosa

This is so dumb. Just make extra if you both are clearly eating it. I get if this is a "these are my restaurant left overs, please don't eat them," but Jesus, you're cooking basically for yourself and are ignoring her? You're both kind of the assholes here. 

@mrsconn23 H and I have also had throw downs because he's eaten *my* leftovers. The second to last time I lost it. Then the last time it happened, he wasn't paying attention, heated up my burrito, and scarfed 90% of it down before I joined him on the couch and realized he had accidentally switched the burrito leftovers and he had my steak burrito and I had his lame chicken burrito. I was so mad I had to sit there in silence for a minute before I could speak. But guess what, now he doesn't eat my leftovers any more. Sometimes I even tell him he can have some if he wants and he refuses to LOL

short+sassy

@levioosa, lmao at "lame chicken burrito".  My H and I are the same way with Mexican food.  Give me the carne asada.  He almost always wants chicken.

We also used to get 10-packs of Taco Bell tacos.  He kept telling me he preferred the soft tacos, which I don't really care for.  So I'd get about a third soft tacos, because he liked having both.  But then he wouldn't pay attention to which tacos he was grabbing for leftovers and almost always took the hard ones.  WHY do that when he supposedly prefers the soft tacos???  After that happened a few times, I stopped including soft tacos.

Overall, my H is pretty good about things.  Especially restaurant leftovers (@mrsconn23, very with you there!).  But he really pissed me off the other day.  I love linguica (Portuguese) sausage.  Unfortunately, it is really hard to find.  Whole Foods carried it for awhile and I was so excited.  But then they stopped.  I still had a few packages in our freezer.

He used one of the packs with tomato sauce to put with spaghetti about a month ago.  I asked him to please not do that again with this sausage because it takes away from the flavor of it.  I reminded him that I can't get this sausage anymore.

Then he made a pack of it for lunch last week and didn't even leave me any!  I asked him WTF was he doing eating MY sausage and not even leaving me any.  He said, "I was hungry and what's the big deal, you can just buy more."  Me:  "NO!!!  I can't buy more!!!!  Now I only have one package left!  Do NOT TOUCH IT."

Because that's the thing.  He likes it about as much as any other sausage that we can buy all day long in the grocery store.  But he's lazy AF sometimes and will just grab whatever is easiest for him to make.  Even when it's a special food for me and not something he cares about.

levioosa

I love how we all get practically feral over our leftovers. lol

MyNameIsNot

YTA, LW