Your H should be telling his sister to knock it off or she's not welcome.

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,

I am currently pregnant with our second. Our daughter is 3. It has been an awful pregnancy. I still am throwing up nearly every day and get horrible headaches. My mother runs her own business out of her home. When things get bad, I go over with our daughter to get some respite. My husband’s sister has been desperate to find new childcare after her daycare closed. Her kids are 8, 6, and 4. She is currently on leave from her job because she can’t leave the kids alone. Her husband travels for a living. We made the mistake of taking on two of the kids during a medical emergency. My mother barely kept the kids contained and lost any chance of getting work done. She has told me never again. My sister-in-law is pissed and will not stop complaining and saying how “easy” I have it compared to her. She will not drop the subject no matter how I ask. I am this close to telling my husband that she isn’t welcomed over anymore. I was sympathetic but right now I am just too stressed to be anymore. What can I do?

—Too Much

banana468

8, 6 and 4?? I'm not following here.   I realize I live in an area with working parents but off the top of my head if the daycare closed at those ages I'd likely be looking for aftercare for 1-2 and full time care for 1-2 depending on whether or not the 6 yo was in K and would be looking into camps.  Was the daycare closure sudden?  Are there no options that opened up when this happened? 

Sorry SIL but you need to start using the power of social media for good and asking about sitter groups, summer camps and after care programs that are available in your area for kids your age.   I'm sure plenty can start to be backed up but this is your responsibility to figure out. 

short+sassy

Neither the LW nor their mother ever agreed to watch the SIL's children until she could find a new daycare.

They generously agreed to help in a medical emergency.

If the LW is now at a place where she can't be around her SIL anymore, then her H needs to back her up.  If he hasn't already, maybe if he talks to his sister they can avoid the nuclear option.  Like, "Sis, we're both sympathetic about how hard things have been because of the childcare problems.  But that is your problem to solve, not ours.  You've been taking this out on my sick, pregnant wife and it stops NOW."