Mynameisnot, this your friend? LOL

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,

I recently left a very long-time boyfriend because I got fed-up dating a married man and settling for time when he could get away. He always made excuses for not leaving an unhappy marriage, though I don’t doubt for a minute that he loved me. I loved him more than I thought I would ever love. Recently, I met an old friend and fell hard for him. I’m crazy in love with him, things have turned serious, and I believe we will enjoy our golden years together. Now, of course, the original BF decides to leave his wife and wants me back. I don’t want to go back. I’m incredibly happy in my new relationship. But I’m feeling guilty about the first one and struggling with that, especially since I wished for that outcome for years. How do I put that behind me?  Am I being heartless? Am I the only one who thinks fate steps in when it needs to and one least expects it?

—Still Feeling Guilty

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mrsconn23 said:

Dear Prudence,

I recently left a very long-time boyfriend because I got fed-up dating a married man and settling for time when he could get away. He always made excuses for not leaving an unhappy marriage, though I don’t doubt for a minute that he loved me. I loved him more than I thought I would ever love. Recently, I met an old friend and fell hard for him. I’m crazy in love with him, things have turned serious, and I believe we will enjoy our golden years together. Now, of course, the original BF decides to leave his wife and wants me back. I don’t want to go back. I’m incredibly happy in my new relationship. But I’m feeling guilty about the first one and struggling with that, especially since I wished for that outcome for years. How do I put that behind me?  Am I being heartless? Am I the only one who thinks fate steps in when it needs to and one least expects it?

—Still Feeling Guilty

Yes.  Because he didn't leave his wife. 

MyNameIsNot

omg, this is her if she ever meets anyone else. 

Sadly (for her), he fully ghosted her after about 10 years of an affair. She's been single ever since. She would jump if he came back, but my money is on wife found out and that's why the ghost. 

short+sassy

Wow!  The LW still doesn't see the married man jerked her around and wasted her time with false promises. 

She's also delusional.  If he really loved her enough to want a life with her, he would have ended his marriage before the LW left.

It's further delusion she thinks he left his wife for her, hence the guilt.  She was probably A reason, but not the main ones.  Because he's not going to leave his wife on only a "maybe" that he can get back together with the LW.