Dear Prudence,
After much discussion, my wife and I (we’re both women) moved to my home country. We were both immigrants in the previous country we lived in and both lived there for most of our adult lives. We moved here primarily to help with my disabled sibling (with whom I’m very close) and my parents as they get older, and also to spend more time with my family here.There are some positive things about living here—a more progressive political culture, better work/life balance, and spending more time with my family. But it is hard—it’s hard to make friends in our early 40s especially as a childfree couple. The lack of friendships is especially hard as we had a great group of diverse friends and social lives where we previously lived. It’s not from lack of trying. We’ve both joined queer and other social groups, sports clubs, etc, and I volunteer in my spare time too. We discuss whether we should stay or go frequently and amenably but can’t figure out how or even when to make a decision. Any ideas?
—Should We Stay or Should We Go?