I'm really at my wits end with my maid of honor and the
purpose of this post is to get some opinions on whether you guys would put up
with this or not. While planning my bridal shower, my mom and another
bridesmaid kept telling me that my maid of honor (Let’s call her Gabby) was
being really rude and negative towards all of their ideas that aligned with the
vision and inspo board I had shown them, and that she was trying to change the
theme completely. When they said no, she said she didn't want to be involved in
it anymore. I was also told that Gabby was texting her (the bridesmaid) talking
a bunch of crap about my mom; calling her a control freak for wanting to make
decisions on decorations. Mind you, my mom is the one paying for everything and is SO SWEET
(and it turned out stunning & dreamy). Gabby wanted my mom to hire people
to set everything up because Gabby thought it was too much work to put out
plates and make a balloon arch and even suggested my mom have the bridal shower at a $10,000 venue that doesn't allow decor. Like ok girl who's going to cough that mula up??? Ok so there’s that, but none of these were done
directly to me. So now let's get to what I've been experiencing with her
personally...
1.
She asked me to send her the games for the
bridal shower, so I sent her a PDF I had bought on Etsy of bridal shower games.
She then responds with “Are you going to be a bridezilla the whole time or can
I do something?” Like WTH, she liiiiiterally told me to send her the games!!!
2.
I told her I didn't want penises for my
Bachelorette party, and she threw an entire hissy fit over it and ultimately said
“Ok so what you actually want is a boring bachelorette.” Ummm no???
3.
Bridal shower planning kept moving forward and
all of the bridesmaids were on board. Everyone had their own responsibilities; Gabby's
responsibilities were to bring the wine (for a literal Pizza & Wine themed
bridal shower), the ice for the drinks, some drink buckets to chill the wine, and
water. She agreed to this. All of my sweet bridesmaids were
showing up to the venue 2 hours early to set up for my bridal shower at the
agreed upon time that has been known for weeks - which Gabby also agreed to. Gabby shows up an hour and a
half late (which is 30 minutes before the event starts) empty handed with just
water saying “woops I forgot everything else”. Even
though she AGREED to her responsibilities and was reminded multiple times by
bridesmaids and my mom over the course of like four weeks. It's literally pizza & wine themed!! How can you forget even without a reminder?!
4.
Even worse, all of the other bridesmaids were
telling me that she completely ignored my mom’s delegations during the little
time there was left to set up and they also told me that she was trying to turn
them all against my mom. I also noticed her ignoring anything my mom said
during the bridal shower and she had such a negative attitude that the
bridesmaids (the nexgt day) told me that she made them feel so uncomfortable.
5.
Ohh yeah, we live in an area with a lot of
traffic so I made sure to get in my Uber to arrive to my bridal shower on time.
But I ended up arriving 15 minutes early and instead of my maid of honor being
excited to see me, her greeting is “Why did you have to come early?”
I really don't want negative attitudes and energies around
me on the big day. And I don't want my mom to feel uncomfortable when she’s with
all us girls getting ready. I want to have a fun girly day and I want my mom and
bridesmaids to feel comfortable. I am thinking of removing her from the bridal party. She is has been such a rude & negative nellie and I have anxiety tied to all of my events because of her!! Thoughts??