My wife is upset with the way my creative juices...flow.

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,

I am a straight man in a marriage with a wonderful woman whom I love dearly. I would never dream of being unfaithful, either physically or emotionally. However, she has discovered my secret.

I sometimes write gay erotica anonymously on the internet. It is complete fiction and just something I do for fun and to blow off steam, and because for some reason I find it very fascinating (my stories are really focused more on the cerebral/power balance dynamic and less on the physical acts). My wife is extremely hurt and convinced that I am writing about actual experiences I have had or am currently having. I feel awful that she is believing the worst, and I don’t know how to make her understand. What should I do?

—Speed Kills

MyNameIsNot

Leaping from writing about fantasies to assuming you're acting them out is quite the over reaction. Maybe couple's counselling? Is she insecure about other things in the relationship? 

I suspect she thinks you are pan/bi and has no idea how to deal with it.

charlotte989875

You both need to find a middle ground between her assuming this means you’ve had relationships with men in the past/ you are cheating and you bring blasé and blowing off her questions. There is a lot in between and you need to help find it.