Your H is a d**k

Casadena

My husband and I recently visited an old friend. During our stay, she asked for his birthday and, when he told her, she screeched: “Oh my god, you’re an Aquarius! Did you know Pluto has entered Aquarius? Your life is going to be AWESOME!” He looked at her for a second and then burst out laughing. Literally weeping, rolling on the floor, and practically wetting himself.

Unfortunately, she is massively offended. She firmly believes in astrology and his explanations only infuriated her more. She’s demanding an apology, which in turn, only amuses him more. How do I get him to make some kind of gesture to appease her? I know her beliefs are ridiculous but she’s sad and feels like he’s calling her stupid. He says, “If the hat fits.” He needs to do something. Or am I wrong?

—Written in the Stars

downtondiva

I get not believing in astrology (I don't really believe in it myself), but your husband's reaction to your friend was over-the-top and obnoxious. He doesn't have to apologize for disagreeing with her, but he should apologize for the way he behaved in conveying it.

banana468

downtondiva said:

I get not believing in astrology (I don't really believe in it myself), but your husband's reaction to your friend was over-the-top and obnoxious. He doesn't have to apologize for disagreeing with her, but he should apologize for the way he behaved in conveying it.

This.  There are ways that you can express your opinion without sounding like an ass. 

And not every opinion needs to be heard. Also, I'm a big believer in respecting people on their turf.  You were guests in her home.  You owed her more respect than that.   

MyNameIsNot

You can't convince someone not to be an asshole. 

Try reacting similarly the next time he explains something about jesus or whatever he believes in. But also, consider why you want to be married to someone who you have to convince not to be a giant asshole to your friends. 

ei34

He really is a d**k!  He's entitled to believe or not believe in something like astrology but his reaction was over the top and obnoxious, and he absolutely owes the friend an apology for being rude.

VarunaTT

His reaction was inappropriate.  It happens.  I've accidentally burst into laughter at someone who I realized was being totally serious.  THAT'S what you apologize for.  The fact that he can't realize the difference is a problem and beyond being a d!ck.