Fri-yay

ei34

We made it!  Wishing everyone a weekend full of happy moments and rest (hopefully!).

ei34

Going to try and get all my house cleaning done after work today.  Tomorrow my sisters and I are taking the kids to breakfast at a local place, just to gather.  Tomorrow night my kids and I have a Polar Express train ride.  Sunday holds mass, cooking, a birthday party for one of the kids, and our village tree lighting in the evening.

Today is candle sale day for anyone who likes Bath & Body Works 3-wicks (I know not everyone does, just sharing for anyone who does  

VarunaTT

I finished watching the Girls Gone Wild documentary last night.  I was physically ill while watching it.  That man is a monster and I hope he dies a long and agonizing death.  In all honestly, I was glad that I didn't have any man around me, b/c he would've had to stand trial for his entire gender last night.  I also thought how tired of I was of men as a gender and how glad I am that I'm queer and don't have to find one to partner up with if I ever want a romantic relationship again in my life.  I truly cannot see myself ever settling with a cishet man again, especially one from my age group.  Then I started watching Why Women Kill, b/c I needed a palate cleanser.

I'm supposed to go on a trail walk tomorrow, but I'm canceling.  I do not like being cold and I don't want to go walking outside at 55 degrees, I don't care if the exercise will "make me warmer", it won't make my nose stay warm.  Otherwise, I'll see mom on Sunday.  I'm measuring the rooms so that I can start trying to figure out the furniture arrangement for my space.

I had a conversation with Mom last night and...IDK how to really explain it, but she's not tracking things correctly.  Then she's being stubborn in what she believes she is tracking that is inaccurate.  I usually try to deflect, or I just listen to the story for the 100th time, but there are times when being accurate is necessary.  I think I might be in for a bit of a wild ride, but whatever it is, it'll be easier for me to deal with while living there, while also significantly harder.  I think once I'm there for a few months, I might also need to find some sort of support group.

MyNameIsNot

Yay Friday! I have no idea what's going on this weekend. MIL is coming in late tonight. I've told H that I'm over being the one who is responsible for entertaining when his family visits, so it's up to him to come up with a plan. Which probably means he's come up with nothing. If so, I'm going to run errands and do my normal weekend things and let them sit on the couch or whatever. 

Nothing much else going on. It's cold and I'm not happy about it. I'm looking for a thicker winter fleece, but I don't want to spend a million dollars. 

levioosa

@VarunaTT Do you think it's all the stress for your mom? Or do you think it's something worse, like dementia? Sometimes the surface appears okay until you really start to take a deeper look (i.e. like moving in). I'd probably look into groups now so you have a list ready of where they're at, that way if you're feeling overwhelmed in a few months it's not another monumental task to undertake. 

Work today and we have our work holiday party, which I will reluctantly attend. Tomorrow I have laser hair removal and then we are going downtown to see the lights and wander around. Sunday SIL and I plan on making cookies and may be watching what I assume is that hilariously awful new Lindsay Lohan movie. I ended up canceling my therapy appointment on Monday because I think this weekend is going to be very full. I called my Aunt last night and we made some tentative plans. I feel like the worst Californian ever. I live the LA area and when people ask me what to do here I feel like I've got nothing. Probably because I avoid actual LA like the plague. It's just so crowded and a nightmare to get to that we rarely go. I used to go to NYC more than I would go to Los Angeles and I only lived 20 miles away from LA at the time. lol. 

I hope everyone has a good weekend! 

VarunaTT

@levioosa All of the women in her maternal side of the family have died from complications of dementia/Alzheimers, so I'm keeping a pretty close eye on her.  The house stays clean, there's food in the refrigerator and it's used/eaten, she's clean and her hair is too, she's still engaging in hobbies and able to chat about them.  So far, I think I'm just seeing age-related memory loss and physical difficulties (she was also in a terrible car accident almost 20 years ago that has some lingering disabilities in her neck with a fusion and lower (L) leg where it's metal from the knee through her ankle joint), but every now and then she can't remember a really common word or she'll tell me the same thing multiple times. 

Mom also...um this sounds mean, but she's a bit of a martyr about things too, so some of this is just boundary creating for me moving in, so I think that's just stress.

levioosa

VarunaTT said:

@levioosa All of the women in her maternal side of the family have died from complications of dementia/Alzheimers, so I'm keeping a pretty close eye on her.  The house stays clean, there's food in the refrigerator and it's used/eaten, she's clean and her hair is too, she's still engaging in hobbies and able to chat about them.  So far, I think I'm just seeing age-related memory loss and physical difficulties (she was also in a terrible car accident almost 20 years ago that has some lingering disabilities in her neck with a fusion and lower (L) leg where it's metal from the knee through her ankle joint), but every now and then she can't remember a really common word or she'll tell me the same thing multiple times. 

Mom also...um this sounds mean, but she's a bit of a martyr about things too, so some of this is just boundary creating for me moving in, so I think that's just stress.

*Hugs* Just remember to take care of yourself and the boundaries are for your sanity. My mom is the biggest goddamn martyr and it is super straining for our relationship, so I hear you. 

How is Harley doing? Is she settling down from her wild days yet? 

banana468

It's FINALLY Friday.

Chiquita had a callback this afternoon for the school musical, a GS event at 6 and at 7 she has a fencing commitment where they have to help to set up for a tournament over the weekend.  She's excited about the team and tomorrow the event is ALL day.  I have to have her there for 9:30 and be there at some point to volunteer as a visible parent.  

Sunday I have a brunch with my book club.  We had to make book-themed baskets and I cheated so I'm making mine themed after A Christmas Carol and including the ingredients for Dickens' punch.   It's a super potent Christmas beverage and I picked up the stuff yesterday after a marathon trip to Target, the packie and Party City for gold coins.  Oh - it's the Feast of St. Nicholas so the kids put out one shoe in the hall last night and woke up to gold coins (chocolates), a Mr. Beast Bar and a Hershey Kiss filled candy cane in their shoes. 

I scored reservations to a local place for dinner on the 16th .  It's a favorite for the Christmas season and I feel like it checks all my boxes for holiday spirit.