Dear Prudence,
My girlfriend has a friend, “Mason,” who has zero filter. The most random crap will come out of his mouth, and then he acts like a kicked puppy for the rest of the day if you respond like a normal human being and don’t think it is funny. I am not sorry. If the first thing out your mouth to “good morning” is “I am pregnant and want to kill myself,” there are some wires crossed. I don’t know if Mason is on the spectrum or just trying to be edgy, but Mason crossed a serious line when my cousin came to visit.
Her boyfriend committed suicide last year and she was the one that found the body. She has had it really rough and frequently has violent nightmares. I told Mason to lay off my cousin and warned him about the situation. And what is the first phrase out of Mason when my cousin comes down for dinner? “Hi, I want to kill myself by sticking a gun in my mouth.” My cousin starts to scream and cry, Mason is babbling even more bullshit, my girlfriend is making excuses, and I tell Mason to get the hell out or he really would wish he was dead.
Now my girlfriend and I are fighting because I overreacted in her opinion, and I don’t think she is reacting enough. Mason is able to keep a job and obviously can keep his mouth shut with his bosses and dealing with the public. It was a shitty move intended to cause a bad reaction from my cousin, and she doesn’t deserve to deal with that after everything has been through. I don’t want Mason in our apartment anymore and if he tries this shit again, we are going to have more than words. My girlfriend claims I am being unfair and she and Mason have been friends since high school, I don’t get to make her choose. I love her, but this is unacceptable. So what now?
—No Filter