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Tuesday

How's everyone?  Hopefully all are okay!

Re: Tuesday

  • AF week and it is ROUGH. It's been getting worse the last year or so, but extreme anxiety, fatigue, depression for the week of my period is miserable. I am setting up my regular gyn appt soon and cannot wait to talk to her about it. 

    I have a 6 hour meeting i need to be listening to most of today and hopefully will be quiet other than that since anyone who talks to me is risking getting a head bitten off.  I can't wait to go to sleep tonight. 


  • We were SO TIRED last night.  There was a fundraiser dinner for Chiquita's fencing team at a local restaurant where the profits from anyone who ate during that time frame went to the team. Those work out so nicely since it benefits a local business and the team.   The place is not known for their diet food though and I think it hit me hard.  Chiquita also went out and fenced til 9 and I brought her friend home so by the time we were settled DH and I just both crashed right after the kids. 

    A day with a few meetings, I need to run out mid day and shop either today or tomorrow for cards for DH and my mom who both have approaching birthdays and get stuff for Chiquita's upcoming tournament. 
  • ei34ei34 member
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    I called out sick yesterday bc two of the kids were sick and stayed home from school, but we're all back today.  
    My left knee has been acting up for a couple of weeks and I'm seeing an orthopedist tomorrow.  It responds well to rest which is good but not good considering I'm on my feet all day, at work and at home, so resting it isn't really a long-term solution. But, it'd been feeling okay yesterday into this morning.  And then when I was walking into my school building I felt a pop in my left calf. I'm trying to be positive and tell myself it's bc I've been walking with an abnormal gait lately.  It took me 20 minutes to get from the parking lot to the faculty room.  I'm sitting where and when I can.  But I'm so down over this whole left leg thing.  I really take it for granted that I'm usually so mobile.  
  • Went to the doctor yesterday and she thinks I have multiple issues going on in the arm.  She thinks that when I slept wrong, I created a muscle spasm in the back/shoulder/neck area.  She said, "Whoa" when she felt my shoulder/back knot.  It's where I carry my tension anyway and I've always had a knot there, but apparently I made it worse.  Then she thinks when I fell, I did something to my rotator cuff.  So I'm on muscle relaxers for 3 days and she did a series of neck xrays to make sure there's nothing else going on.  Some exercises to do at home for the neck/shoulder area, and then we'll start figuring out next steps.  The muscle relaxers have already made a huge difference and I'm thankful.

    Otherwise, SSDD.  Nothing too much really going on.
  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    Ouch @ei34! That’s insane
    and you too @VarunaTT. Glad you got those relaxers to help! Your situation reminds me of this:


    I’m back from my cruise and it was wonderful! One of us 5 cruise go-ers found out she gets sea sick so it’ll be her first and last. We barley saw her all trip. She was holed up in her room with the only meds the docs gave her (which didn’t help much). 
    I missed the deep freeze and when I got back, I thought everything was fine since I used my faucets and did a load of laundry.  Then on Saturday, I found that a pipe burst in my wall after my shower.  My water was too hot to handle (admittedly, I like my showers HOT!) so the plumber closed off the burst pipe and stopped my overflow and told me not to go past “C”.  Today’s shower was a “B” and cold. I can’t live like that!!!! Anyway, his invoice was for a service call and furnace cleaning (because he noticed I needed one). I didn’t need one for new pipes - so yay? …. I guess?  But maybe I should think about a new water heater? It sounded like that wasn’t the problem though.  Can my pipes not handle the temperature I want?
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  • Oh no @CharmedPam

    I haven't heard anything about post-freeze inability to shower.  But when you head out of town in cold weather it's better to turn up your thermostat than down due to the possibility of pipes freezing.  When you're in the house your overall living is going to make the house warmer.  Think running water, using your oven, opening and closing the fridge cause it to kick on and off and run and in a house you're likely using bathrooms, washers and dryers that can either use the plumbing or create heat.    We never had one burst out here in a vortex but DH did need to take a heat gun to one that froze.   Now when we know we're in for a weekend of a lot of cold I at least keep the heat on in my office.  It's above freezing today so I'll hope we're in the clear for a bit. 


  • Literally @charmedpam. I remember falling literally 10 feet out of a tree once as a kid (onto a bed of pine needles after a fresh rain, so like, softest landing possible) and I was totally fine with the exception of having the wind knocked out of me. Last Wednesday I crossed my legs too long at our biweekly work meeting and I couldn't walk the next two days because I hurt my knee. Getting older is bullshit. lol. I'm glad your cruise was fun but bummer about your cruise mate getting sea sick and about the pipe in the wall! 

    @VarunaTT and @ei34 Speedy joint healing thoughts! 

    Weekend was okay. Grandpa was sent home from the hospital with a "i dunno, but labs look okay" non-dx. My Mom stayed over at my Grandparent's house for a few days. She made the comment that she thinks Grandpa is just dying and I don't think she's being dramatic or wrong for saying it. It's a sad reality. She was driving me absolutely bonkers because I kept asking her what time Dad's appointments were to help out at their house, she wouldn't answer, and then all of a sudden Saturday morning she lets me know the time an hour before the appointment time (I live an hour away). I had to woosah myself the whole drive over. It's not my fault or my emergency that I asked three days straight for times and it wasn't given to me. Of course we missed the appointment. I was going to be damned if I drove all the way out there and didn't get to at least go to eat somewhere decent, so we went to the local college town and had a nice lunch with minimal complaining. It really made his day too which made it hard to be too salty even though it was physically and emotionally draining for me. 

    Sunday we had brunch for MIL's bday which was... a lot. FIL kept trying to ask my opinion about MIL and health and next steps and BIL A kept interjecting and talking over me (the mansplaining in a topic he knows nothing about was infuriating) so the conversation was not as productive as desired. I have super suspicious thoughts about it. Obviously MIL is declining mentally, and you'd have to be blind or just beyond self absorbed not to see it. When we got to brunch she left her purse in the bathroom. We found it, nothing was missing, she gave it to us in the booth to save space, but then every ten minutes she was looking for it and had forgotten where she had put it. I am really wondering if FIL was given a diagnosis of something bad because he's been hinting at "what happens to mom if I go first," and he wasn't even this freaked out after he had a stroke a few years ago. I think there's a really big family conversation to be had regarding care and wishes, but I do feel limited in what I can say because I'm not blood. I guess it means something that FIL asked me specifically three separate times (literally turned away from BIL at one point, looked at me and asked me by name specifically) so he definitely wants my opinion, but that doesn't change other sibling dynamics and man I just hate family politics BS. It doesn't help that with the exception of SIL A and H, every other sibling is just the absolute worst and so incredibly selfish. 

    Anyways, otherwise SSDD. 


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  • I'm sorry @levioosa.  Is there an opportunity to get you and H and your FIL together without the peanut gallery ?
  • @banana468 we're going to have to do this. I know SIL A was going to call and talk to her dad too. But I also know that he doesn't want to worry her either and he tries to shield her from a lot of things as the "baby" of the family and as his favorite. I do think there's a perception that I am mentally the strongest and most dependable out of everyone. H is dependable but super anxious. I also have personal and healthcare experience and I think he finds comfort in that. I almost feel like it would be more productive for me to talk to FIL alone than with H because H tends to travel down rabbit holes. And while they aren't incorrect points, sometimes they're things which a) won't change and b) shouldn't be the primary focus. But we should meet together and try to figure out what's going on. The whole family is avoidant so I think some direct questions are needed too. 


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  • My house was at 70 during the deepfreeze and then when it went back up to the 30’s, I changed it to 68. We’ve had cold weather before, negatives but I’ve been home for it and was able to shower during them.  I didn’t use the shower for 6 days and while it was 40 when I showered, I think it would have happened regardless. Even if I left a small drip running from my taps like I meant to.

    i’m so sorry you’re stuck as the “designator” in all of this @leviossa. Everything always on your shoulders, but I see why in this case, with your medical experience. 

  • @levioosa in some ways our marriages are very similar.  I love DH and he's very dependable but is also incredibly anxious and consequently hard conversations become very difficult and only when necessary.


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