Dear Prudence,
I’ve known my best friend, “Sarah,” since elementary school. We’re in our 30s now. I graduated from college over 10 years ago and got a job. She dropped out of college and has never worked. To this day, she refuses to work, even though there’s nothing wrong with her mentally or physically. For years, she sat at home, living with her parents, which was bad enough. Any attempts to ask her when she was going to get a job and move out are met with silence, sometimes stretching for weeks.
Living at home was bad enough, but her parents sold their house and moved into a retirement home. And she went with them! Her parents are in the independent living section, in their own house, and she’s right there with them. She still refuses to work. How do I snap her out of this? She’s living in a retirement home in her 30s as life passes her by!