I am going through it in my marriage. Less than two weeks ago, I discovered infidelity. I was totally blindsided and am very wounded. I’m also planning on trying to work it out (we’re in counseling), and as a result, I’ve not told a ton of people. One of the people I have told is a friend I’ve known for multiple decades. I just went to see her, and her husband basically greeted me with “Hey, how are you? We’re married, so I know all the salacious details.” My life and heartbreak do not feel like gossip fodder to me—they feel terrible. Even as a joke, it hurt a lot. I have found his humor abrasive at times, but this felt borderline intolerable. Would it be dramatic to tell my friend, “Hey, I adore you, but while I’m in this really tender place, I don’t want to spend time around your husband”? I’m feeling so vulnerable at the moment that I’m having trouble judging the appropriateness of my emotional responses.