Can you block her messages?

Casadena

Dear Prudence,

I’m a college student. I was born without legs, and I’ve lived my entire life without them. My grandmother recently entered a retirement home, where she’s discovered a fascination for YouTube shorts. She now sends me videos about people with random disabilities—including a quadriplegic bride, athletes with prosthetic limbs (which I’ve never used), blind children learning how to use a cane, and stroke victims learning how to walk. It just feels like any time she sees a video of someone with a disability she thinks, “Oh, I know who’d appreciate this—my granddaughter who uses a wheelchair!” I know she means well. Or maybe she’s trying to say, “Why aren’t you doing more with your life?” Either way, I think it’s kind of weird and I’d like her to stop. My mom and brother think I’m being too harsh and that I should just let her love me the way she does. I want to find a way to gently tell her that her heart is in the right place but I’d rather she send me the same types of videos she shares with the rest of my family.

MyNameIsNot

Unless she's generally an asshole, she probably finds them inspirational and is trying to be encouraging. But that doesn't mean you have to just deal with it. You can have a conversation with her about it and explain that when she focuses on this, it feels like your disability is the only thing she sees about you. 

Or just use the old trick to send everything to a folder or put it on silent and then ignore the videos or only go through them when you're in the right headspace for it. Unless she is an asshole, in which case block her. 

banana468

Yeah I wonder how much of this is young adult annoyed by older generation.  If Grandma is well-meaning it may just be another eyeroll of "Oh great ANOTHER video she's sharing!" 

I'm not seeing it as Grandma's a jerk but maybe she needs to step away from social media for a bit.