Your H is a dick

Casadena

Dear Prudence,

My wonderful husband has this obsession with my boobs. After breast-feeding a few kids, they are not so discreet and tiny anymore, and frankly I’m not very happy with the new bulkier look. I used to be a small B, now I’m a solid C. My husband likes them like this, but I feel suffocated by his attention to them. Anything that is not a turtleneck gets the once-over and basically a passive-aggressive comment like, “You feel OK wearing that top?” At which point I generally say I do, sometimes asking him if he thinks it’s too flashy and he reassures me that it’s OK as long as I feel OK. At this point I go change because I don’t want him thinking I’m trying to flash his mom at the family lunch or something. What can I do to get him off my back—err, chest? I’m modest, but I’m getting fed up with feeling like I never manage to dress appropriately.

—Fashion Problems

banana468

I was thinking that this was going to be about undivided attention and not body shaming.

Stop changing your clothes and stop asking for his opinion.  I'm not going to say that you're inviting him to make the first comment but you are asking what he's thinking when he says something.  So stop asking him.  "Yup.  I'm wearing this blouse to Easter at your moms."    Make the statement and not a request.

And later when you're not in the middle of getting dressed ask him point blank why he's been making comments about your attire. 

MyNameIsNot

Why are these always the "wonderful husbands"? 

downtondiva

From the first sentence, I thought this was going in a very different direction! 

Anyway, I agree with @banana468 that you need to quit seeking his opinion on your clothes and figure out what's going on here, Also, if he likes how you look, why is he questioning everything you wear? I can't help thinking that he's controlling and doesn't like the idea of other people noticing you. Doesn't sound all that wonderful to me!

MesmrEwe

That H is a prick...  Good lawd, it's a Baby B to a C, not C to EEE/F/FF...  LW - Wear the tops and be free!!!

short+sassy

The LW needs to have a blunt CTJ talk with her H.

Like, "You need to STFU about the tops I wear.  If I'm wearing it, I feel okay wearing it and don't need to be constantly asked that question.  It comes off as judgmental and makes me feel insecure.  If you have a problem with my wardrobe, that's your problem.  You need to get over it yourself without being a dick to me."