Tuesday, blech

VarunaTT

I've been learning how the civil court system works in Cook County, IL and whoa.  It's simultaneously incredibly organized, but also a labyrinth.   Just learning a lot.  Thank goodness I have a mentor who has spent years working the county, b/c this would be extremely frustrating if I didn't.  MO doesn't have a lot going for it, but the way the courts organized electronically seems to be incredible.

Nothing much going on today.  I'm taking tomorrow off b/c of the construction/moving power lines behind me.  I've filled the day with moving errands, helping Mom with her new computer, and my eye appointment.

I'm in a bit of a snit about one of my friends.  Very basically, I asked her to stop giving me unsolicited advice.  I said I knew she loved me, that it was all coming from a loving space, that this was the 3rd time I'd had to ask and I wanted it to stop.  She chose to send a response that's a nice little package of gaslighting and defensiveness.  And this friend should know better.  I'm just not interested in dealing with it at all, so we'll see if the friendship makes it through it.

How's everyone's week going so far?

banana468

It's a stress ball ish week.

Yesterday I found out that a long time salese rep I work with an dpreviously worked for is leaving the company.  I had a reassuring call with my boss' boss saying my job is secure which is great (and I thought so but the reassurance helps).  However this is going to mean accounts being reassigned to different sales reps, meetings and more travel.  

And while I normally embrace that at a time that things aren't nutty, I'm also concerned about DH who just continues not to feel great.  He's started a new medication and switched to Prozac and continues to feel out of it.   I'm going to be supportive to do what we need to help especially with medication that  takes weeks to level out but he's exhausted and when he's tired more has to fall on me.  That makes sense.  But that also makes his anxiety spike so it's a rough cycle.

I'm headed out to get forms I need for Chiquita to be overnight on a school trip and take her medication.  Holy moly those controlled substances require a lot of paperwork and annoyingly the pediatrician won't fax or email her school so I have to drive to get it.   I like security but this seems theatrical. 

ei34

Thumbs down on the gaslighting from your friend @VarunaTT and on having to make the extra trip @banana468

I have the most nagging headache, on and off since yesterday afternoon, Tylenol isn't helping.  Having a bit of a day at work.  ExH called the kids last night and told them he's going to see them on Saturday, they'd love that (and so would I), so hoping it's actually the case.

charlotte989875

SSDD here. Work is chaos and the weather got cold again. 

M and J were playing so cute this morning. It just makes me so happy to see how much they love each other! 

MyNameIsNot

SSDD here too. I finally made it back to orange theory this morning, so I'm feeling good. Work is being annoying, but that's the norm. The weather here is really nice, but holy moly this pollen is wild. It rained a bit yesterday and there's a river of yellow flowing down my street. I'm pretty lucky that it doesn't bother me too bad, but I hate having to clean it up all the time. 

Casadena

H is in a snit because he's stressed at work and hates his job and it's bleeding into family. It's exhausting. Then, our heater stopped working overnight so it's around 60 degrees in our house. It about put him over the edge. 

Busy day at work, chiropractor later, then dinner and playing with kiddos til bed time. 

banana468

@ei34 I'm back and $15 lighter because the pedi charges for those forms.  I LOVE our pedi but I really hate having to pay for a form that the school requires so  my kid can take a prescription that the pedi prescribed that's in a bottle with her name on it.   It feels real nickel and dimey.  I'm probably salty because I got the estimate yesterday for what we'll be paying for Chiquita's endo/colonoscopy later this month (hooray mother/daughter rotorooters!) and it's over $1500 as coinsurance.   Wouldn't want you to feel more of that customer burden UHC thanks. 

CharmedPam

Yes to a bleh Tuesday. @MyNameIsNot, you reminded me that i always wanted to sign up for our health pass at work. It has premium gyms, stretch lab, barre, exercise coach, orange theory and much more. But it’s $250 a month and very steep for someone who has her own gym. Lol. I have to figure out how I’m paying for 3 expensive trips coming up, so it’s a no go but all the gyms in this pass look so cool.
@VarunaTT, I bet cook is mindboggling. This is why I opted out of a cook county court for divorce. Where we went was easy peasy lemon squeezy (unless I find out in September when he tries to remarry that I did our divorce wrong lol)

levioosa

Thinking of you @MNNEBride and I hope OT/PT can get in to help quickly. I hope DH isn’t fighting you on wearing the gait belt.

@VarunaTT I hope things with your friend work out. I’m in a snit with SIL A right now and I’m kind of at the point where I’m not really feeling motivated to fix anything either. I’m tired of always being the one to reach out or apologize or try to mend bridges. It’s not that I’m always blameless, but I’m sick of people never having any accountability for their actions. 

@banana468 I feel both ways with the forms. On one hand, it feels like simple things should just be signed without fuss. I’ll just sign things in the appointment if the patient has it and depending on what it is (school physical form? No problem). We’re technically supposed to make all forms go through the business office (and that I don’t necessarily agree with that).  But people will have ten different forms that are pages long for each one and it takes up a lot of time. Some providers spend hours at the end of their shift filling out paperwork and calling for prior auths etc and none of that is compensated time. It’s too hard to pick and choose which forms are free for which patients and which ones deserve a charge so they blanket charge. I completely disagree with places charging per page though. I’m sorry about all of the work changes too. What a stressful time. 

I hope your headache gets better quickly @ei34

SSDD over here. H and I had a good weekend. We re-celebrated our anniversary since last weekend SIL turned it into a shit show. H starts his last semester of school today which is both nice and terrifying. I am feeling a little anxious about supporting us on one income because I suspect it’s going to be difficult for him to find a job once he graduates given the current climate. He also finally agreed with me that we need to seriously work on getting a more liquid fund together. But that’s easier said than done when it’s just me

This morning H wouldn’t stop singing “lady in reeeed” but he’s so tone deaf I couldn’t tell if it was Gaga or Chris de Burgh (literally he was just singing the words lady in red) and I had to clarify and he was in fact singing Abracadabra. Which I also woke up to stuck in my head so apparently we aligned somewhere in our sleep with that. Lol. 

MyNameIsNot

@CharmedPam $250/mo would be hard for me to justify too. I've found that most of these places are really high for monthly memberships, but they'll also let you buy packs of classes that you just use as you go. Especially if you really don't want to do the same thing every day, it's nice to be able to do this or that once a week and mix it up with home workouts. 

banana468

@levioosa I'm with you.  When DD needed forms filled out for her to apply and attend a camp for kids with her AI disease I recognized that they were extra and outside what they do.

But....this is the drug she takes that they prescribe....that I need filled out to attend a school function....that they would not agree to fax or email to the school nurse.  So I also had to physically drive to pick it up.   I chafe at the concept that I have to pay them so my child has a form authorizing her to take a drug that their office prescribes her which IMO Is different from "please fill out this health history, evaluation, etc."  Even more of an annoyance.  She's going to take this ONE TIME.  I'm giving her the medication Saturday and she needs to take it Sunday.  So it's $15 and likely 2-3 gallons of gas, and an hour of my time for ONE PILL.   

short+sassy

@banana468, Good luck to your DH.  I hope he finds the right dosage/combo of medication that makes him feel better.  Thyroid medication is like that also, in that it can take 6-8 weeks before a change in medication starts having any effect.

@ei34, I hope your exH keeps his word and your kids have a great time with him on Saturday.

@CharmedPam, I didn't realize your ex was getting married again.  I hope you're doing okay with that.

My H and I had a CTJ talk about two weeks ago.  There was a lot we talked about, but I started it with the gist of: I've been carrying WAY too much of the burden for our household for too long and he needs to step up because I can't keep doing most of it anymore.  I included big and small examples of what I was talking about.

I tried to be careful not to show anger or cast blame.  I talked about it like a problem I wanted us to solve together.  What were his thoughts?  What would help him?  For things I've discussed before, I asked him a new question, "What has been holding you back and stopping you?"  I can thank my therapist for that one.

He was silent for a couple minutes and then told me he thinks he suffers from depression.  That he's been researching it for quite a while.  We talked more about it and the best steps for going forward.

In the past, he has refused to see a general practitioner.  But about a month ago he finally agreed to make an appointment for some other issues he's been having.  He took the initiative after this talk (small step, but good sign) and made an appointment the next day.  He went to it last week.  His doctor wrote him a scrip for Wellbutrin and ordered blood work.

The bloodwork came back with a surprise, maybe a good one.  He has hypothyroidism.  All the other issues he's been having, including depression, are symptoms of this condition.  The doctor wrote him a prescription for that also.

We are cautiously optimistic this will improve some/all the other things.

But I'm worried it won't do anything, because that's been my experience. I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism over 30 years ago (same time as my T1 diagnosis).  My symptoms were difficulty losing weight and low energy.  I was so excited this was finally the answer.  Except it wasn't.  It doesn't matter what my thyroid levels are, I've never had an improvement for either of those things.