You are not politics, go if you want to

Casadena

Dear Prudence, 

What’s the current etiquette for accepting wedding invitations when you’re transgender? I’m a trans person in a red state. I’m also at the age where a lot of the people I graduated with are starting to get married. Most of them knew me before I transitioned. Some recent column responses urge people to not mix weddings and politics. I’m just wondering what to do considering the fact that like, my existence is politics. I know where I live. I know some of these people are bound to have relatives who would be offended by me attending. But if I’m invited, surely the couple wants me there? I don’t worry about this with my queer friends, though maybe I should, but I’m at a loss for whether I should politely decline invitations to straight weddings so I don’t make waves. Is there a set rule here?

VarunaTT

Hugs to OP for having to consider this.  As long as OP wants to go, and has an invitation, go.  Screw the b@stards.

MyNameIsNot

Unless they deadname you on the invitation, there's really no reason not to go. It doesn't matter what their relatives think; if they invited you they want you there. Go.