Move after she's asleep?

Casadena

Dear Prudence, 

I hate sleeping with my girlfriend! Well, actually, I hate sleeping with anyone. I’ve always strongly preferred to sleep solo, but when my girlfriend stays over at my place (or vice versa), we both sleep in the same bed. She snores, hogs blankets, and has kicked me a few times. I sleep very poorly whenever we sleep together, which she has noticed, but I haven’t mentioned her snoring because I don’t want her to feel bad (she can’t help it! I drool in my sleep, I can’t help that either!). I’ve told her I prefer to sleep alone before, but it’s become a hot topic now that we’re discussing moving in together.

She has agreed to separate bedrooms, but she wants us to sleep together once a week. I love her, but that sounds like torture. Even if she were the perfect sleep companion, I would hate that. I suggested we sleep together once a month, but she was quite upset at the idea. She says the physical closeness of sleeping together helps her feel safe and secure. I feel awful that I don’t feel the same. It’s nothing against her personally, I just really, really value my sleep! We’re at an impasse.

banana468

Is there anything she can do for the snoring and can you use separate blankets? 

knottieb74479a0be956dab

I understand you perfectly because I don't really like sleeping with anyone either. But over time, I began to realize that maybe the problem is not with the person, but rather with me and my bad sleep. I can say that I am a very light sleeper, and it was really unrealistic to sleep for 7 or even 8 hours before. But with the help of supplements from Pharmacy B2B, I was able to improve my condition and even now I sleep with my fiancé in the same bed without any problems

Casadena

Ooooh @banana468 separate blankets is a game changer. H and i have done that for a quite awhile and we both sleep so much better! 

short+sassy

I'm wondering if another compromise could be taking an afternoon nap together, so it isn't taking away from more important night sleep.

Maybe if he goes to bed later or gets up earlier than her, he can start the night sleeping with her and then go to his bed after she has fallen asleep or she wakes him up.  Or climb into bed with her in the morning, so she wakes up next to him.

levioosa

Listen the older I get the more I feel like old school shows with married couples in separate beds had it right. Get off me, you’re hot, I have to push you over when you turn on your back and you start to snore, and you toss and turn and steal my blankets. I love you but it only goes so far and if I’m that sleep deprived I’m going to strangle you with my pillow that you stole during the night. 

That being said, I honestly think one night a week isn’t an obscene request. Choose a weekend/off night when you can take a nap or sleep in the next day. Or do what H does and go to another room once she falls asleep.