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Casadena

Dear Prudence, 

My 20-year-old son “Ted” has a 19-year-old girlfriend named “Dahlia.” Dahlia is very well-endowed and rarely wears a bra. However, she does wear low-cut clothing and often looks like she’s about to fall out. The dress she was wearing last night was so small on her that it she couldn’t zip it up all the way and she was very close to a nip slip. When she walked in the door she looked at me, shrugged her shoulders and said, “I know this is a low-cut dress” as if she knew she was coming to my house, knew what my expectations were, but came looking like that anyway. Here’s my problem: She’s going on vacation with us in a week. I don’t want to seem prudish but I do want to get through to her that this type of dress isn’t appropriate for the places we’ll be going and the people we’ll be seeing. I’ll be asking her before we leave if she’s got bras in her suitcase and I am ready to leave her behind if she doesn’t or make her go out and buy a few or buy them for her. What do I do? How do I handle this without alienating her but helping her to understand that something that is fine when you’re out clubbing is not fine when you’re trying to make a good impression with your boyfriend’s family?

banana468

I love how so much of this has to do with the woman and her body type and the desire to actually look through her bags. 

LW, your problem is going to solve itself in one of two ways:
1) Your son, hearing what you propose will tell you in no uncertain terms that he absolutely does not approve and will not condone you treating his 19 yo GF like a child.

2) Your son will do nothing to defend his GF because you seem to have raised a boy who doesn't stick up for the people he chooses to love (note - not those he's "supposed" to love).  The GF, seeing how you birthed a human lacking a spine will end the relationship leaving your son to be put on the registry for bones. 

Casadena

IF there are places with actual dress codes (a country club, nice restaurants, etc) make sure that everyone attending is clear on the those, otherwise get off your high horse. You don't have to like how she dresses, but omg the thought of discussing her underwear should appall you and it's horrific that LW thinks that is a reasonable solution. 

banana468

Casadena said:

IF there are places with actual dress codes (a country club, nice restaurants, etc) make sure that everyone attending is clear on the those, otherwise get off your high horse. You don't have to like how she dresses, but omg the thought of discussing her underwear should appall you and it's horrific that LW thinks that is a reasonable solution. 

This is the ONLY time I'd be OK speaking up, "Delilah we will be having a few meals at the Nigel Bottomtooth Country Club.  They have a dress code where Spencer will need to wear a jacket and here's a print out of the dress code for women from their website.  "  

Based on how the LW posts I can't imagine though that there are actual dress codes.  They'll be orders of miles downwind from Hyannis Port and won't run into Maria Schriver or Chris Pratt.