You're sure not right

Casadena

Dear Prudence,

​​Recently, I had a fight so big with my boyfriend at Walmart that I just ran out to the car and drove home, leaving him at the store. Here’s where he messed up.

I was wearing running shorts that went down to just above the knee. This older woman comes up behind me and loudly says, “she’s showing her ass to the whole store!” I turned around and said, “excuse me?” She told me I was dressed “way too slutty” to be out in public. I turned to my boyfriend for support, and he averted his eyes. “Are you gonna let her talk to me that way?” I asked. “Forget it, let’s just go,” he replied, in an irritated voice.

I folded my arms and said, “No. This lady called me a name and I want you to defend me.” “Sorry about my girlfriend, ma’am. Would you mind just walking away?” my boyfriend said to the lady. I couldn’t believe my boyfriend had taken her side over mine. I wanted to scream at him in frustration, but we were in public so I just left him there. He had to call an Uber to get home. Prudie, I can’t be with someone who doesn’t have my back. I’m ready to throw him out over this. He says I’m making too big a deal and to let it go. Who is right?

banana468

I'm really curious about these just above the knee shorts that were fine for you two to leave the home and get to the store but not cool once you got there.

Is it dump worthy?  Maybe.

Explain to your boyfriend using small words why you won't roll over and apologize every time a boomer is irritated.   If he has an issue with what you're wearing and legitimately questions your judgement the time to air those grievances is before you leave the house.

I feel like there's more to this story but if it's truly as written I hope she hasn't met his mother yet.

ei34

Obvious biggest issue is why on earth does anyone have to comment on what anyone else is wearing?!  I'm pretty non-confrontational so if I was in LW's shoes I would have ignored the comment, and definitely wouldn't have expected a partner to "defend" me.  But LW and the bf could use a talk over why LW was feeling the way she was and expectations as far as being on each other's side.  

MyNameIsNot

I don't know why you need the boyfriend to defend you. You're an adult, you can shut this bitch down on your own.

But yeah, I wouldn't be with a guy who sided against me and my shorts here. 

Casadena

I think LW is totally ridiculous here. You don't need a man to defend you, and i think he was embarrassed by your response and behavior and insistence that he confront and clearly unhinged woman - he obviously didn't care about your shorts and I didn't read that as apologizing for her shorts - more in a "this is out of hand, let's just go' kind of way. 

They should break up because they LW is nuts, and clearly the bf is not right for her.