Tuesday

ei34

How's everyone?  Hope tired Tuesday goes by without many bumps!

ei34

My birthday was very nice, my mom cooked a delicious meal and the kids had fun going with my dad to Baskin Robbins to pick up a polar pizza and putting candles in it.  Thankful for wonderful parents (and kids).

I was doing some heavier lifting this weekend (installed the window ACs, moved bigger furniture around for some upcoming reno work) and my wrist of all things is feeling it today.  I mean, I'd take it over my back.  I wore my wrist brace to work for some compression (my backup brace that I keep in just in case, along with a knee brace and ankle brace - tell me you're 41 without telling me lol).  I'm sure it'll feel better soon.  

Birthday feast leftovers for dinner and music extracurrics for the kids.

CharmedPam

Glad your night went well @ei34. I don’t really go to ice cream places anymore (for cost and because I just shouldn’t lol) but I can’t remember passing one in a bit so googled to see if they left our area. Nope, guess we still have a few left. 

Yesterday I broke it off with a dude after 2 dates. Tell me if these are red flags?
Even before we met he asked if I was open to a relationship dynamic where I take charge and have the last say in things because a “bossy” lady was a turn on for him. I said no, I’m not like that, I’m equal opportunity. He said not a deal breaker at all and still wanted to take me out. We had two dinner dates and set a third one up. He seemed COMPLETELY normal and nice but yesterday asked if I would ever be interested in a relationship dynamic where I’m able to see other people and for the record he would remain exclusive to me and not develop any jealousy about it. Again, no. That’s just opening the door to saying open relationships are ok and no judgment to anyone in one - but they just don’t work for me. I’m jealous by nature and would want my partner to not like the idea of me being with anyone either. He goes “i hope I didn’t turn you off?” And I’m like, well…. alarm bells are going off, yeah. 

I’m thankful it was just 2 dates before he told me those fetishes.  He was 6’3 too. Do you know how hard that is to find? 

It’s wild out there. I’m officially choosing the bear lol.
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banana468

Oof @CharmedPam that seems off.  Nope I'm equal opportunity or defer when needed.  Ex: We're shopping for a new car and DH knows the bells and whistles and ins and outs.  I'm deferring to his better judgement knowing that we're settled on WHAT it is that we want.

If I told him in no uncertain terms that I hated what he was looking for then we'd be looking for a different vehicle.

@ei34 I'm glad your birthday went well!

We're in a shoreline town so places for fast seafood and ice cream places are around as much as pizza.  

Chiquito's team won the playoff game for little league so our championship game is Thursday.    And it seems like summer is slowly on the way for a quick visit this week so I'll take it (said the woman sitting with her desk heater on).

short+sassy

Woooo!  I booked my flight and rental car for my CA/Catalina visit later this month.

I decided to go whole hog and am taking the same flights as my friend.  I was originally going to be cutting my trip shorter than hers.  But figured I would use the extra time to visit my family for a few days.

It also gives me 2-3 days for my friend to show me her L.A. area hangouts.  I didn't go there much when I lived in So. CA and, other than occasionally flying into LAX, haven't been there at all since I moved to NOLA 25+ years ago.

Casadena

G seems to be feeling a bit better today. But he definitely declined as the day went on yesterday so we're taking him in this afternoon. Was supposed to golf tonight but his Dr could only squeeze him in late and we won't be able to do pickup/appt and golf. No biggie - was mostly excited about the exercise and i can get that done during the day today. 

He wants Portillos for lunch, so we'll probs do that. Im just glad he has an appetite. 

Glad you had a nice birthday @ei34!

MNNEBride

Happy Belated Birthday @ei34! I'm glad you had a great celebration with your folks and kiddos
@CharmedPam - Those are some red flags! But it's good he put those up front, so you didn't have much time invested. Ick
@ILoveBeachMusic - I hope your back and hip pain improve. Please keep us posted!

Our weekend was pretty good. Saturday evening, my BFF's daughter and family stopped by to visit. They were in town visiting my BFF's mom. It was fun to have little kids around (5 yrs and 3 yrs), but wow, the energy! The cat tolerated them and even played a bi

On Sunday, I went to church and did a few things around the house. I organized my craft supplies and prepped for my colonoscopy Other BFF stopped by in the evening, as she was staying in town for work.  

Monday, I had to be up at 4 am to do the second half of the prep.  The other BFF came to pick me up and take me to the procedure.  I Ub ed home.  The procedure went OK.  They ouldn't get around to my ascending colon because my colon is "loopy".  They tried repositioning me and pushing around on my midsection, but then my oxygen rate went down, so they stopped.  Now  I need to have another colonoscopy tomorrow under anesthesia.  So I'm fasting again today.  I know it's important, but I'm over it.

CharmedPam

@banana468 office temps are the bane of my existence. I can’t wear summer clothes in the office. We all have heaters going too, but I feel like there’s one level of temperature and it’s just “hot”. It’s on and off and on is set at “heat”.  I get clammy it gets TOO hot!
sounds like a fun trip @short+sassy
@Casadena, three words: chocolate cake shake
@MNNEBride, that sounds awful! To go through all that and needing a re-do. I’m sorry!  

MyNameIsNot

I think ending it was the right call, @CharmedPam. It's pretty clear that those are fetishes and he's looking for a person with specific tastes. I'll be honest that I'm the take charge and usually in the lead in our relationship, but that's because I'm a project manager type A personality, while H is a go-with-the-flow type. It's a dynamic that evolved over the years of us building a life together, not something one of us gets off on. I think the latter is what this guy is looking for. He'd be calling you mommy and asking you to spank him within months.

After a relatively cool spring, summer has definitely arrived here. We just took the dogs for a walk on lunch and I broke a sweat in the sun. Nothing much else going on. Work is annoying, 

ei34

@MNNEBride oh no- sorry that you’ll need a re-do! 😣

banana468

I'm sorry @MNNEBride that stinks and you're probably hungry and the rest of it is pretty crappy but it's all so important and I hope they're able to scan what they need to tomorrow.   It's a cause near and dear here.

And @CharmedPam office temps were AWFUL when I worked out of the house.

At this point i'm cheap and it's my house.  So I usually try to opt for the result that keeps my electricity bill lower.  But today it's forecasted to be in the mid 70s so for the first time in weeks I'm not wearing a sweater and it took til noon and 2 cups of coffee for that to be comfortable. (but I sleep with the AC on and woke up hot at 4 AM wearing a silk tank and shorts so thanks body for spreading out the body heat.  truly appreciate it!)

CharmedPam

Yes @MyNameIsNot. He came out with those questions after just 4ish hours together. What next? 

@banana468, thankfully I prefer heat over cool. I haven’t run up my a/c yet and I’m so sacred to turn it on this year because I keep saying “this is the year I’ll need a new unit”. I don't need air blasting in my place, so maybe I have more longevity with my unit because it’s not run as high as most?

levioosa

@CharmedPam. If he wanted a polyamorous Dom or if cuckholding is his kink then he should have just listed that in his profile. Breaking it off was the right call. 

Grandpa is on the way to a nursing center. Thank goodness that was figured out. Otherwise SSDD. 

Welcome back “home!” @short+sassy

Booo to repeat colonoscopy@MNNEBride 

ILoveBeachMusic

@MNNEBride that's rough - having to do the prep then having to do a redo. Finger crossed that every thing is normal. @Casadena, I hope G continues to improve.

I went to my gyn NP. She referred me for pelvic floor therapy and a uro-gynecologist.   She said it would probably be 3 months before I could get in there so if the therapy works I can cancel that appointment. In the meantime, she suggested I use a product called Poise Impressa. Think a tampon shaped like a squared off hourglass. It supports the bladder and the uterus - both of which are prolapsed for me. Boy that fall really did a number on my body. I had to order them from amazon because our drugstore didn't have them, and I didn't want to drive all over town checking places at rush hour. They'll be here tomorrow morning so not too bad. Hope that makes  me feel more comfortable until the therapy kicks in.

charlotte989875

Hello! I’ve been a little MIA lately- things are nuts around here. Baby J is sick again and we had a rough weekend of urgent care, high fever and round the clock meds. He finally seems to be turning the corner. 

H and I had a huge argument Friday, immediately before I had to pick J up from school. H is depressed (work stuff but I General) and feeling overwhelmed (we have two small children), all of which is fine and normal but when he feels like this he acts.. well like a jerk. Snapping at me, being rude- it’s been like this for a while and that on top of small kids and I told him I couldn’t do this unless something changed, previously he said he’d try therapy but that was basically him being rude and guarded to the therapist and only going once every 6 weeks. So he said he’d go more so we’ll see. 

It’s hot in Buffalo and I’m a little mad it feels like we went from freezing rain to sweltering heat.