Fri-yay

ei34

We made it! Wishing you all restful and enjoyable moments this weekend ☺️

ei34

I’m not taking any joy from the Big, Beautiful Breakup. The late night hosts’ punchlines are pretty funny, but it’s so depressing to see where America is right now. 

Not a normal workday for me- it’s Eid so the students are off. We have professional development *yawn* but only for a few hours so my co-teachers and I plan to get lots of grading and final assessment things done too. 

Going to a fun hibachi restaurant with friends tonight to celebrate a couple of birthdays, mine included, and looking forward to that. 

The weekend is blessedly light. I’ll give the house a good scrub tomorrow morning, I’m going to try a new lemon shallot pan sauce that supposedly goes with chicken cutlets (you usually don’t see breaded chicken in recipes like that), and one of the DDs is having a good friend over later in the day. 

Sunday will be the fairly typical lineup of mass, some prep cooking, and then the kids and I are visiting my mom. Might not quite be pool weather but will still be nice to be there, we haven’t been to my parents’ house since Memorial Day weekend. (And note visiting her, not her and my dad…she describes herself as basically a Kayak widow, my dad is spending more and more time paddling along in the ocean as the weather warms up. So she is looking forward to the visit too.) 

banana468

We are the opposite this time of year. Love Mom and Dad but seeing them on a Sunday is an hour drive on a good day and add in shoreline traffic and it could double the drive.

Tonight Chiquita and I have plans and DH and Chiquito are home.  We need to empty my current van and be ready to pick up the new car tomorrow so I expect at least the emptying on the list tonight.

After getting the new car I'm cantoring the 4 PM mass and then DH and I have plans tomorrow night so Chiquita is 'babysitting' her brother for a few hours.  My fingers are crossed that they get along. Chiquito's team lost their game last night and he's SUPER grumpy.  

MyNameIsNot

I'm ready too. Work has just been super busy with meetings all day every day and staying until 6-7 to try to get the work done once the meetings are over has me dragging. 

We still have bonus dog, so it's going to be an outdoorsy weekend here. Tonight we might take them to a nearby brewery if I can get done with work at a decent hour. Tomorrow run at the flat park, and I'm supposed to go to the pool for a friend's birthday. It's only up to mid 80s, so not really warm enough to get in the water, but it will be nice to lounge with friends and have cupcakes and champagne. Sunday we'll do a long hike near the river and if the rain holds off we'll take the dogs to an outdoor lunch spot. Other than that, I'll probably just be sitting on my deck staring at the trees. 

charlotte989875

M had kindergarten screening this morning! He did so good and they said he was so ready. Feels like a big step. 

I’m in a waiting room to do genetic screening. My cousin tested positive for the BRCA gene. My dad and grandfather both had prostate cancer and relatively young ages, my dad’s aunts all had breast cancer, and my mom’s mother has ovarian cancer. So I’m a good candidate for genetic testing. I recently had a mammogram so I know I’m good right now but trying not think about what could be. 

short+sassy

I need to strategize my packing for next weekend's trip.  I'm flying Spirit, so only get one personal item.  Yikes!

I will have access to a washing machine/dryer at both my friend's marina and my mom's house.

The friend I'm going with suggested I could send myself a USPS box for about $15, if I need more room.  But I need to at least "pretend pack" this weekend to see if that's necessary so there is time to ship a box.  Good idea, though!  Spirit might have cheap flights, but their carry-on or checked bag fees are ridic and much higher than other airlines.

Maybe I'll wear multiple items of clothing onto the plane, lmao.

She also said I don't have to worry about toiletries because she has tons of that on her boat, except for my contact lenses or make-up/skincare I might want.

Per the ADA, I can also have an additional bag that doesn't count as a personal item as long as it only has medical supplies in it.  I've known about that rule for years but this might be the first time it will come in handy and I'll use it!

levioosa

Good vibes @charlotte989875. I know it’s scary. 

I’ll admit, the fall out is making me smile a little bit. I have to take some joy or else I’ll just rage cry all the time. We all knew it would happen eventually. I was trying to think back to the time estimate I gave in January and I’m pretty sure I said I’d give it 5-6 months before they imploded and I doubted it would be more than a year. So my calculations were correct. 

I need to go visit my grandfather this weekend. I’m pretty tired today. It’s a busy day and it’s been a busy week.

I hope everyone has a good weekend! @mynameisnot that sounds like a perfect weekend. 

@ei34 enjoy your birthday hibachi!!!

banana468

charlotte989875 said:

M had kindergarten screening this morning! He did so good and they said he was so ready. Feels like a big step. 

I’m in a waiting room to do genetic screening. My cousin tested positive for the BRCA gene. My dad and grandfather both had prostate cancer and relatively young ages, my dad’s aunts all had breast cancer, and my mom’s mother has ovarian cancer. So I’m a good candidate for genetic testing. I recently had a mammogram so I know I’m good right now but trying not think about what could be. 

A dear friend of mine has the gene.  Once she tested positive she made some major choices.  She knew she and her H were done having kids (he'd already been snipped) but there were multiple surgeries and a reconstruction involved because the alternative for her was extensive monitoring for what she felt was an inevitability.  Her mom had both breast and colon cancer (at least twice for one of them) so it was something she took extremely seriously. 

VarunaTT

I'm so glad this week is over.  It's just been a rough one.  Not particularly bad, just lots of adjusting in both personal and professional life.  I'll get my kitchen unpacked this weekend finally and get some groceries in and stop living off of Door Dash.

Harley is finally showing some stress about the move.  I feel like she was doing okay and then sometime yesterday realized this is home now.  i don't think she has been drinking enough water, so I went and bought some wet food yesterday.  She chowed that down and her gums went back to a darker pink and weren't sticky, so I felt better.  I've ordered some of the hydra care water and have more wet food.  I think once things are more settled in our spaces, she'll be better.  Also, she set off the house alarm last night.  She was on the kitchen table and knocked off some fake flowers into the kitchen door and it went off.  We did get it canceled.  I know my mother is probably irate about it, but she's hiding it well.  I mean, there's no way the conversation goes well; it was an accident and Harley is a cat and my Companion and I'll move out again before I give her up.  Hopefully I can snuggle her up this weekend and she'll start to feel better.

No big plans except watching F1 and unpacking.  My other favorite driver, Oscar Piastri, is in the lead for WDC and I really want him to win.

banana468

You remind me @VarunaTT!  We have a Cub Scout event that evening so I assume DH is going to have it on as much as possible while we prep for a potluck.

charlotte989875

banana468 said:

charlotte989875 said:

M had kindergarten screening this morning! He did so good and they said he was so ready. Feels like a big step. 

I’m in a waiting room to do genetic screening. My cousin tested positive for the BRCA gene. My dad and grandfather both had prostate cancer and relatively young ages, my dad’s aunts all had breast cancer, and my mom’s mother has ovarian cancer. So I’m a good candidate for genetic testing. I recently had a mammogram so I know I’m good right now but trying not think about what could be. 

A dear friend of mine has the gene.  Once she tested positive she made some major choices.  She knew she and her H were done having kids (he'd already been snipped) but there were multiple surgeries and a reconstruction involved because the alternative for her was extensive monitoring for what she felt was an inevitability.  Her mom had both breast and colon cancer (at least twice for one of them) so it was something she took extremely seriously. 

This is what I’m leaning toward if I’m positive. We’re done with kids and ovarian cancer at least seems more difficult to monitor. But interesting they will test for 77 different gene mutations linked to cancer so we’re going to get all kinds of information. In 3 weeks. 

banana468

charlotte989875 said:

banana468 said:

charlotte989875 said:

M had kindergarten screening this morning! He did so good and they said he was so ready. Feels like a big step. 

I’m in a waiting room to do genetic screening. My cousin tested positive for the BRCA gene. My dad and grandfather both had prostate cancer and relatively young ages, my dad’s aunts all had breast cancer, and my mom’s mother has ovarian cancer. So I’m a good candidate for genetic testing. I recently had a mammogram so I know I’m good right now but trying not think about what could be. 

A dear friend of mine has the gene.  Once she tested positive she made some major choices.  She knew she and her H were done having kids (he'd already been snipped) but there were multiple surgeries and a reconstruction involved because the alternative for her was extensive monitoring for what she felt was an inevitability.  Her mom had both breast and colon cancer (at least twice for one of them) so it was something she took extremely seriously. 

This is what I’m leaning toward if I’m positive. We’re done with kids and ovarian cancer at least seems more difficult to monitor. But interesting they will test for 77 different gene mutations linked to cancer so we’re going to get all kinds of information. In 3 weeks. 

I'll be thinking of you!  

short+sassy

@charlotte989875, good luck with genetic screening.  I know it's scary when there's a strong family history of serious medical conditions.

@VarunaTT, I know it's been tough transitioning!  I loathe having to move.  Then there is also the adjustment of living with another adult again, even if it is your mom. But the worst part is over!  Hopefully Harley chills out soon.  She should.

My previous cat Nip was normally very quiet.  But when my H and I first moved to our current home, she was very upset for the first 2-3 days.  During the day while we were up, she wasn't too bad.  She looked a bit distressed and had some plaintive cries here and there.  But the nights after we'd gone to bed were awful.  She made an almost non-stop sad crying sound.

The second night, my H had a good idea to put her in her carrying case when we went to bed.  This might vary by the cat but being in an enclosed space like that seemed to relax and comfort her.

We left her free to roam the house again on the third night and she was fine after that. 

short+sassy

levioosa said:

Good vibes @charlotte989875. I know it’s scary. 

I’ll admit, the fall out is making me smile a little bit. I have to take some joy or else I’ll just rage cry all the time. We all knew it would happen eventually. I was trying to think back to the time estimate I gave in January and I’m pretty sure I said I’d give it 5-6 months before they imploded and I doubted it would be more than a year. So my calculations were correct. 

I need to go visit my grandfather this weekend. I’m pretty tired today. It’s a busy day and it’s been a busy week.

I hope everyone has a good weekend! @mynameisnot that sounds like a perfect weekend. 

@ei34 enjoy your birthday hibachi!!!

Even knowing who I am talking about, it's still odd seeing two of the most powerful men in the world bickering like a couple of immature 12-year-olds who are meeting by the swing set after school for a fight.  How is this our world?

It sure didn't seem to previously bother Musk at all that Trump is a sexual predator and was friends with Epstein for years.  But now he's shocked and appalled (eyeroll).

Now Trump's buddy Bannon wants to deport Musk for being an illegal immigrant.  The irony was never lost on me that while Trump was acting like illegal immigration was the worst crime ever, his ex-BFF Musk has openly talked about he first came to the US by lying to Immigration about the purpose of his visa.

I saw someone comment, "I hope there isn't going to be a tariff on popcorn."  I concur, lol.

ei34

I mean I’m enjoying it a tiny bit  

@charlotte989875 you’re taking all the right steps but still must feel scary and unnerving, thinking of you and healthy/“negative” vibes your way 

Hope you’re continuing to settle into your new home @VarunaTT. I feel the move made sense but transitions are really hard, especially earlier on

VarunaTT

The discourse around the "break-up" has me disheartened.  There are people telling Elon "welcome to the resistance" like he was ever part of the left/liberal/progressive movement.  No thank you, he can go just away. 

There are people saying that the expression "the girls are fighting" is misogynistic.  It's not, but that's a saying from queer black culture about drag queens and it's usually meant to be like...eye-rolling?  The way it's being used for Trump and Musk leave me feeling uncomfortable.  Like, those are 2 seriously privileged cishet white men and to use a queer expression about what's going on just feels not only wrong, but not severe enough, I think.  This isn't 2 drag queens being catty and competitive causing eye roll worthy drama, it's 2 men who's arguments can seriously eff some things up for the world.  I also feel like the English language just needs more words for "stupid" b/c it's just so fvcking stupid.  And yeah, I want to laugh while crying about it too, so it's just another day in America.

levioosa

At the end of the day you have two megalomaniacal narcissists who are in a pissing contest for attention and power and I’m just so tired. But I’ll definitely chuckle as they mock each other. But fuck this weird idea that Elon is somehow now a progressive. No, he sure as shit isn’t? Like that’s not even a question? I also totally don’t buy that he was just a “fiscal conservative.” The man is over here regularly blowing up rocket ships and trying to accumulate government contracts like Pokémon. He doesn’t give a shit about that.