Muddy Monday

ei34

How's everyone?  I hope that everyone's weekends were enjoyable!

ei34

Wet and rainy here.  Weekend was a nice mix of getting in the needs and the wants and still time leftover for downtime.  

One of the DDs hurt her foot playing soccer in the yard late yesterday, she kicked the ground instead of the ball (in Crocs, not sneakers, whoops).  She was hurting but it didn't seem agonizing so I sent her into school today (after lots of RICE-ing all evening and wrapping it this morning).  I did make an appt for an x-ray after school today...hope she just jarred it and nothing too serious.  It's always something.  Aside from that pretty SSDD. 

banana468

Busy busy weekend!

Friday Chiquita went to open mic night at her HS and I went to the GS event without her and hung out with the moms.    I hear she sang Memories by Maroon 5 and did a great job.  She's emotional about the seniors graduating and I think it was a big year for her.  I'm proud of her.

Saturday we picked up our new car which was an hours long process because of the additional warranty stuff every dealership tries to sell.  DH held strong on a lot so we'll see! I do like the car a lot and feel much better about having the ride I do.

Saturday afternoon I cantored a mass and that evening DH and I saw Jim Gaffigan.  DH's anxiety is an issue so we ate at home and then went for the show only and headed home.  Sunday we went to Mass, I needed to work and we had the Cub Scout annual potluck.  DH was honored as a den leader and leaving and I was super proud of him.  He really works to be there for people.

CharmedPam

@ei34 ouch! I can feel that pain for her!
@banana468, where was your H when I was signing last year? I talked down some stuff/raised my trade in, but had no idea the warranty could be eliminated and it canceled out all my efforts in negotiating lol. I love JG! Hope he was good!

Weekend was fab! My friends and I did lavender fest in Michigan, which was basically a vendor/craft sale. However, Michigan prices are way better there. For example I went to a craft fair in IL and a homemade wooden/resin carving board was $250-$300, depending on size. The booth at lavender fest had a large cutting board/serving platter for $70 (plus 6% tax, not 10% what I’m use to). Almost the same pattern. Maybe the IL vendor’s pattern one was a tad nicer, but this was more economically realistic. My friends and I stayed at a gorgeous b&b just 20 minutes away from Frankenmuth. Nothing was wrong with the first B (beds) but the 2nd B (breakfast) warranted a review to drop some stars. I’ve never stayed at a b&b with such an awful breakfast. And I’ve stayed in a few.
Our time in Frankenmuth was great. We did a carriage ride, a boat ride with wine and chocolate tastings, 2 german style dinners, tons of shopping and then wine and games Saturday night back at the b&b. All in all, no complaints. Aside from the breakfast that almost made me sick. 

VarunaTT

It was okay.  Got the kitchen mostly moved in and figured out.  Have a bunch of donation boxes because we got rid of a lot of Mom's stuff and probably are doing more.  She's changed her mind and is going to let me use my dinner dishes and dining room table, so that makes me feel a bit more at home in the kitchen.  I know she's struggling b/c she's a "keep the counters clean of everything" type person.  I'm a, "I'm aware of my ADHD issues and keep things on the counter (neatly mind you), so that I don't waste food because I forget about it if I don't see it".  Honestly, most of our mental issues are the same, but she dealt with hers through rigidity of how things should be and I deal with mine by working with my brain and relaxing a bit.  B/c I got meds and went to therapy b/c I was burning TF out with what she taught me.  Not saying that she's wrong, just that there are far more productive and happier ways to live.

We did have a quarrel, b/c she's...I mean honestly, she's being neurotic about Harley.  She knew this cat came with me, she agreed that me and the cat were a package deal (this was an hour long conversation when I first brought this idea up, it was my main concern), and the cat lives in the WHOLE HOUSE, not just my 500 square feet.  She's in a tiff because she doesn't want Harley in her bedroom and she keeps nixing any ideas I have about how to block Harley's access b/c she's claustrophobic.  I finally told her that she needs to find an method of blocking Harley since she kept saying no to my ideas, her neuroses are not my problem, and she needs to talk to her doctor about upping meds and seek therapy for help with dealing with them.  So the transition continues, but it's definitely having some rough spots.  I know my feelings are raw right now and rather all over the place.  I'm sure hers are too.  I'm trying to give grace, but it's really hard when it comes to my cat.

But anyway, I finally had my coffee out of my coffee press and a breakfast sandwich this morning, so I'm feeling better.  Didn't do much else over the weekend.

Casadena

Somehow a chill weekend turned super busy! All good stuff just a LOT. 

We had a family movie/sleepover night Friday, H and took turns working out Saturday morning. I took the boys for a couple errands then we had our first pool day! They had so much fun and it was nice to be outside all afternoon. Early bed and H and I ordered dinner and watched Conclave. 

Yesterday was mass with H's family, pancake breaktfast after. Then home for a couple hours before dinner with friends and then a school even at a little kid amusement park from 5-8. Little late going to bed for them but they were TIRED!

G has been having some trouble going to school lately and we haven't figured out what's up. Lots of tears and clinginess that hasn't happened since he was ~2? Hoping to get some more info from teachers. 

H annoyance: 
H and I had a little tiff yesterday and i'm really struggling to understand where we go off the rails. We were chatting about our cleaning service and I mentioned that i'm frustrated about certain things that aren't being done and wondered if a "deep clean" less often would be more helpful. H disagreed. Fine. Similar thing where we're kind of approaching a bathroom reno differently. No one was disrespectful - just chatting. But then he was huffy and crabby all day because "we're not on the same page about anything, ever" but refused to elaborate. I succinctly explained what happened from my perspective asked him to tell me what was going on for him. He wouldn't/couldn't, then got mad that i said "it's ok if you don't want to talk about it, i'm just curious where you think we went sideways, we can move on though" because apparently that was dismissive of his feelings? I just can't fucking win either way (i know it's not about winning, just using the expression.)

Casadena

@ei34 hope DD feels better!

banana468

@Casadena I am wondering if that speaks more to an overall anxiety that your H has in how you two approach problem solving and he responds with being snippy.  Not excusing it - but based on what you've previously said that's where it's pointing my nose.  Even more in that way if one of you generally does more of the heavy lifting of the tasks in that area generally done by the cleaners.

Casadena

@banana468 that's helpful perspective. It's hard to separate fact from feeling when it's such a regular occurrence. 

banana468

Casadena said:

@banana468 that's helpful perspective. It's hard to separate fact from feeling when it's such a regular occurrence. 

It would make me think that there's a feeling of desperation/concern in his tone and possible depression KWIM?  And this is all assuming that the two of you are generally aligned but you guys are disagreeing over nuanced details. 

When you're depressed and stressed the fine details may seem huge.

MNNEBride

The weekend was good.  Friday, I got the final results from my colonoscopy.  They removed two polyps: one was benign and the other pre-cancerous.  Repeat in a year.

Saturday was a chill day. I did all of the laundry, addressed postcards for a family picnic and otherwise just relaxed.

Sunday, I was worship leader in the morning. In the afternoon, my brother and I loaded the contents of our storage unit onto a trailer and in our vehicles and hauled them to our garage. I just have to return our key cards, and that part is finished. It'll be good not to have to pay that bill each month. But now starts the hard part of sorting through the contents into toss, recycle, and keep piles.  

Casadena

oh he's depressed for sure and has recently started seeing psychiatrist on top of his recently restarted therapy. I'm trying hard to be understanding and feel like i'm doing pretty well at being supportive. (I obviously don't mince words when talking about it here, and it's obviously all from my perspective). BUT it's been 5+ years of this and it's exhausting. And he blames these kind of issues for "causing" his depression. I just want him to feel better and for us to be able to agree or disagree on things without it being a blow up. Because it feels like it happens either way. 

MyNameIsNot

Weekend here was good. We spent a lot of time outside doing dog stuff, and I'm exhausted. I'm going to be right after dinner tonight. 

Nothing much else going on. I have a hair appointment tomorrow and I'm thinking about making a change. My hair is long and natural color. Since I WFH most of the time, I live in a ponytail or a bun, and I just trim it a couple of times a year. I'm thinking about having her cut a little of the length off and doing a cute just below the shoulders cut, but I don't want to sign up for more maintenance, so IDK. This is the most interesting thing going on here. 

VarunaTT

OMG, seeing @MyNameIsNot's post reminded me!  I can't believe I didn't share, but I did, in fact, dye my hair purple!!!

VarunaTT

Or did I share?  Everything is starting to run together. 

Casadena

@VarunaTT I LOVE!!!!!!! 

MyNameIsNot

It's so cute!

CharmedPam

News to me @VarunaTT and I love it! So yes @MyNameIsNot, I vote purple. I too, keep my big appliances in my counter. Otherwise I won’t use them. ie; my ninja creamy that I used all of 2 times. 

@Casadena, that’s aggravating. I hope said psychiatrist can give him tools on how to respond and cope in situations like that. Sorry you have to be the calm one and deal.