Monday, Monday, Monday

VarunaTT

IDK why I felt the title like that, but I did.

The weekend was mostly productive.  On Saturday, I think I finally have the kitchen fully unpacked and the donations fully packed.  Dang, my mom had a LOT of dishes.  As she said, she's had way more time over the years to collect and she's hosted a few family reunions, so  it's all just stuff from over the years.  Sunday was F1 and my driver, Oscar Piastri, remains in the WDC lead and McLaren is running away with the WCC, so I'm a happy person.  Then I watched 2 more episodes of The Pitt with my friend.  I'm about half way through and enjoying it.  However, it does remind me a bit of The Bear, where it's just so high stakes/anxiety all the time, that I can't watch more than 2 episodes and sometimes that's pushing it.

More Mom shennanigans, though I'm trying to train myself to just shake my head and laugh.  It's starting to settle a bit.  My main struggle is that it feels like she is ALL UP IN MY BUSINESS.  Too many years of living alone and not being accountable to anyone but Harley.  Last night I was finally had to tell her that I needed some alone time. She's offended and somewhat pouty today, but leaving me alone.

Otherwise, SSDD.

banana468

@VarunaTT DH was volleying between F1, Yankees/Red Sox (a Red Sox SWEEP!?!  WTF??) and then NASCAR.   Nice that it's not Red Bull dialing it in this season.

DH felt off for the weekend so we laid low.  Friday night we ran to the marina for food and then home for baseball.  Saturday Block Island was scrapped and we stayed home and I shopped with Chiquita early and both kids later plus got food for Sunday.  We didn't have guests but had steak and roasted potatoes and salad for dinner and I got some cleaning done.  

DH is referred to a rheumatologist so I hope that starts to be a path forward for him.  

MNNEBride

The weekend felt short.  Friday afternoon, I met with our tax person to set up what I needed for my craft business and to make sure all the ducks were in a row.  I now have a state tax ID and have applied for a "Doing Business As..." certificate.  I have an email address and must set up my accounting system.  This will be a micro-business, but I want to be sure I'm doing what I need to do.  She was very helpful.

Saturday, we woke up to the news that two of our state legislators and their spouses had been shot, and the gunman was on the loose.  While we weren't close to the shootings, it's so horrible and unsettling to have it happen at all, but especially near home.  I crafted and then went to a graduation open house later.

We did recliner church Sunday and then hosted my brother for Father's Day.  Since there were just the three of us, I made tator-tot hotdish (how Minnesotan!).  We spent some time catching up on the events surrounding the shootings and then enjoyed the beautiful weather on the deck.  

Today is SSDD for work.  My boss was on vacation last week, so there was a barrage of emails and messages this morning from her.  I taught a class this morning and realized I have one on Wednesday afternoon that I need to prepare for.

It's dark and raining here, and I really want to take a nap!  

CharmedPam

I’m sure there’s an adjustment period for both of you @VarunaTT, she’ll come around, hopefully!
Recliner church 😂 @MNNEBride

weekend was just back to back to back musicals. I have one left next week and then nothing till July.
i feel bad for my friend. She’s almost certain she’s going to divorce her neglectable husband (no cheating or abuse just loss of love). She was advised to get it done now while his business is doing well. But I could have sworn I heard of stories from both alimony and child support that you’re allotted that amount until circumstances changes. One of my friends had her child support changed drastically since her ex lost his job years ago. Is that true? My friend going through this now wouldn’t have child support but spousal support/alimony. I want her to proceed with caution because he sounds like a man who would go into early retirement just to screw her over.      

banana468

CharmedPam said:

I’m sure there’s an adjustment period for both of you @VarunaTT, she’ll come around, hopefully!
Recliner church 😂 @MNNEBride

weekend was just back to back to back musicals. I have one left next week and then nothing till July.
i feel bad for my friend. She’s almost certain she’s going to divorce her neglectable husband (no cheating or abuse just loss of love). She was advised to get it done now while his business is doing well. But I could have sworn I heard of stories from both alimony and child support that you’re allotted that amount until circumstances changes. One of my friends had her child support changed drastically since her ex lost his job years ago. Is that true? My friend going through this now wouldn’t have child support but spousal support/alimony. I want her to proceed with caution because he sounds like a man who would go into early retirement just to screw her over.      

My guess (and I'm happily married) is that with any divorce you need a great divorce attorney to set you up and protect you. 

It doesn't mean that's a fail safe but it would be the first start especially if there are already suspicions about finances.

MyNameIsNot

CharmedPam said:

I’m sure there’s an adjustment period for both of you @VarunaTT, she’ll come around, hopefully!
Recliner church 😂 @MNNEBride

weekend was just back to back to back musicals. I have one left next week and then nothing till July.
i feel bad for my friend. She’s almost certain she’s going to divorce her neglectable husband (no cheating or abuse just loss of love). She was advised to get it done now while his business is doing well. But I could have sworn I heard of stories from both alimony and child support that you’re allotted that amount until circumstances changes. One of my friends had her child support changed drastically since her ex lost his job years ago. Is that true? My friend going through this now wouldn’t have child support but spousal support/alimony. I want her to proceed with caution because he sounds like a man who would go into early retirement just to screw her over.      

It totally depends. Child support is an on-going obligation and can be adjusted if you establish a "substantial change of circumstances" just like custody. Alimony can be structured as an on-going obligation, which would make it subject to modification, but you can also structure it differently to make it not subject to modification. Or anyway, that's how it worked in Georgia when I worked in family law 10ish years ago. But if he owns a business, she needs a good lawyer and fast. It's very easy to hide assets with a business and she needs to make sure she's getting a good picture of where he stands.

Weekend here was good, but too fast. Saturday we went to a protest in the afternoon and got drenched, so of course we escaped to the nearest taco place. Yesterday we went to a winery with my family for father's day. It was really fun, but it's hot and I didn't drink enough water, so now I feel shitty. I'm in the office the rest of the week for team gatherings. I'm excited to see some of my coworkers from outside of the US, but I'm not excited about having to get up extra early and schlep down there.

ILoveBeachMusic

Arrived at the beach on Saturday after a lot of stopped traffic! We celebrated the twins birthday. Sunday we spent at the pool and beach and riding bikes. Ditto yesterday. The weather has been great and looks pretty good all week. Sunday night, H and I met up with a friend for dinner. We haven't seen her in a couple of years. She and her husband have a place here but don't live here all the time. Our schedules haven't lined up the last two times we've been here. Her H is hiking El Camino so she is here with some girlfriends. It was great to meet them and catch up.

Off to the pool and beach today. I haven't been able to do any beach walking, which is my thing, due to my back. There has been some improvement, but I was hoping the steroids would work a miracle . I'm scheduled for an injection next month. Hopefully that will take all the pain away.

ei34

We got drenched at our rally too @MyNameIsNot but very worth it.  By us the most immediate concern is ICE, my siblings and I all personally know people who've been detained and my kids each have friends who are scared.  Even though it's been a few days they keep chanting "No ICE! No fear! Immigrants are welcome here!" around the house.  
Hope the beach vacation is going well @ILoveBeachMusic
@CharmedPam if someone's financial situation changes post-divorce, the child support amount is also supposed to change (in theory).  All the vibes your friend's way as she goes through this transition either way

CharmedPam

ei34 said:

@CharmedPam if someone's financial situation changes post-divorce, the child support amount is also supposed to change (in theory).  All the vibes your friend's way as she goes through this transition either way

That’s what I thought with my friend who was going through it. I don’t know how they calculate self employment retirement funds but she should have her eyes open that it will drop to that the day he does retire.