Solstice Fri-yay

ei34

Wishing all a good weekend!

charlotte989875

Happy Friday! 

The move of M to his new big room and big bed is… rough. He’s got a lot of feelings and having a hard time controlling himself when he’s mad. Last night was a meltdown after we told him he needed to eat some food - he’s tired, he’s got big feelings and it was a lot. So we’re all a little tired today. And he for up at midnight and 5:45 to go to the bathroom. So glad he’s telling us but we’re all sleepy today. 

banana468

That's so hard @charlotte989875!  Does he need more security in the bed like with borders/guards or something or is it an overall adjustment to the new that's rough?

banana468

The good news: DH's situation yesterday was a hive.

He's awaiting bloodwork for testing he had done on Wednesday and likely was delayed due to the holiday yesterday.  The hope is that a rheumatologist will see him but we're still not sure what's going on.  The only good news is that the tests that are run aren't finding anything bad.  But he complains of pains in his hands and ankles and sometimes neck and his sleep is disrupted (like, dude could easily sleep in until this year and today he woke up before me.)

charlotte989875

banana468 said:

That's so hard @charlotte989875!  Does he need more security in the bed like with borders/guards or something or is it an overall adjustment to the new that's rough?

I think it’s the overall excitement + a newish feat of monsters. So excited about a big bed (that can be jumped on which is super fun) and nervousness around the different room, he’s just a ball of feelings. 

H is also not handling it super well so I feel like I’m helping M manage his feelings then having to do that for H too. 

CharmedPam

So what you’re saying was what we had before this was just Spring? Lol. We did have our fair share of rain though. I quickly got my lawn done before the upcoming “possible” showers and then 3-4 days of almost 100 degree temps.
@charlotte989875 is he waking you up to inform you of bathroom trips, or does he require help? 
Trivia last night was SO much fun, but a huge gripe with people who rsvp yes and then decide not to go (and I know my friend just didn’t want to go because she was on the fence about it Saturday when I talked to her) change the rsvp to “no”, opening up a spot for someone on the wait list but usually that waitlister doesn’t know they’re in and then I’m reprimanded for holding a table larger than needed.  No shows and people canceling last minute is a big bone of contention with meetup organizers and it happens in every event (I know organizers who kick people out for no shows. Not sure about last minute no’s, but those are just as bad imo). 

It’s just so aggravating because there are SO many times when I rsvp yes to something and on that day don’t want to go, but I usually make myself go (unless I’m sick or something) because I’m an organizer and know what it’s like.
I have the Kimberly Akimbo musical on Sunday and I’m debating on going and just losing out on the money. Do I want to be walking around in the city at 95 degrees? Has anyone seen it and can they talk me into it? I’m going to need some persuasion here.   

banana468

Not sure if he needs to be "cozy" but we found that putting a pool noodle under the bottom sheet on the side(s) that border the floor at least help with a feeling of security but the Chiquita acrobat still managed to spill onto the floor.  

VarunaTT

Saw all the doctors yesterday.  Harley is supremely healthy.  The vet and vet technician oohed and aahed over her (they always do).  I got her flea and tick preventative.  I tried to take her out with me this morning during my morning sit in sunshine, but as soon as I brought out her leash, she ran off.  I'll try again this weekend.  She's so small, they brought out the kitten needles for her.  Her shots went a bit slower b/c of that, I think.  She barely raised a fuss, but I could tell she was really unhappy for awhile after that.  She forgave me this morning and sat in my lap purring, but that apparently didn't extend to her harness/leash yet.  

I am a goddamn mess and I'm so tired of it.  I'm going to give this a bit longer and then talk to my doctor about HRT or upping my lexapro b/c I'm just sitting here crying and overwhelmed. Part of me is saying, this is all big transitions (both work and personal life) and you're having big feelings and they're just leaking out.  The other part is like, okay but there has to be some relief from all of this.  My therapist always told me that I was not skilled at sitting with my feelings and discomfort, but it's so hard to know where the line is when you barely have the skill to recognize it anyway. 

I told one of my bosses today that his continued unresponsiveness to my questions was becoming an issue for my work flow and completing the tasks he assigns to me.  He told me that was unhelpful.  Well, what in the actual fvck would be helpful for you, b/c nothing I've tried has gotten responses faster, this is an ongoing habit and issue of his (I know from my supervisor who has had this complaint from other assistants), and we have had ONE "required" meeting ONCE the entire year I've been here, so I can't even bring it up at a "more appropriate time".

I also told my mother to stop talking to me before 9 am.  I'm not really a morning person and I try to handle it, BUT...she doesn't put her damn hearing aids in when she first gets up and comes asking me questions?  Like, I'm not a morning person and now I have to yell to answer questions?  Can you just give me some damn space please, if it's not an emergency it can wait a goddamn hour!!

So yeah, I seem to be at some sort of limit.  Hopefully I can get my bedroom organized this weekend and start adding to the settled feeling.

ei34

Aww M @charlotte989875 that's a big transition.  It does take time, he's lucky to have you in his corner
Repeated no shows are so frustrating @CharmedPam!!
Reading a US History regents right now (they're our state's version of big end-of-year finals) to an ENL student in his native language (Spanish).  I speak the language and often read Spanish tests to students who speak English and simply have the "tests read" accommodation, so what I'm reading is usually simple sentences in Spanish.  This is...harder.  Lots of documents and passages in words I don't use when I speak the language conversationally with my in-laws.  But I'm on a quick break now and I'll have another at 1:30.  And it's Friday  

Fairly low-key weekend planned.  The kids and I are excited to watch Frozen on Broadway, now out on Disney+.  Oldest DD and I saw it for her 4th birthday back in May 2018 and it was incredible, we're all Frozen lovers so that will be exciting.  Otherwise trying to keep cool, with the heatwave approaching.  

CharmedPam

I hope you can get your answers @VarunaTT about hrt or lexapro. But you ARE going through some major changes so keep that at the back of your mind too.
Also, I may need a Harley pic because it’s been so long 

VarunaTT

You know i can do that one, @CharmedPam. 

charlotte989875

banana468 said:

Not sure if he needs to be "cozy" but we found that putting a pool noodle under the bottom sheet on the side(s) that border the floor at least help with a feeling of security but the Chiquita acrobat still managed to spill onto the floor.  

I love this, thank you! 

I think some of it is the bigger room because once we can get him to calm down he sleeps pretty well most of the night. 

He still needs a bit of help at night going to the bathroom- I think he’d be fine alone but last night he was basically half asleep and it didn’t all quite make it in the toilet. 

CharmedPam

@VarunaTT she’s totes judging me (curtain pic lol)

short+sassy

@VarunaTT, I saw on your other post that your cholesterol and A1c have been running a little bit above normal.

Psyllium fiber (brand name Metamucil) or husk has been known to help lower LDL cholesterol.

There are a lot of foods with surprisingly high sugar content.  You always seem pretty on point with nutrition, but I'll mention some of them jic.

--Sauces.  Pretty much all of them, especially the packaged bottles sold in grocery stores.  The majority of salad dressings also, though not all of them.

--Anything high carb, even if it doesn't taste sweet.  But it's variable for the individual.  Rice, crackers, potatoes, and/or pasta can spike some people's blood sugar and not affect other people.  I'm specifically talking about non or pre-diabetic people, so it probably doesn't spike that high or for long. 

For diabetics, any of that will often spike us lol.  But "how much" and "which is worst" seems to vary a lot by individual.  For me, a couple tablespoons of rice or 1 oz snack bag of Cheez-its are my nemeses.  I have to take more insulin for those little portions than I do for a normal serving of potatoes or pasta.

--Fruit.  Watermelon, pineapple, and bananas are the highest on the glycemic index.  I'm definitely not saying "don't eat fruit"!  But people with a borderline A1c they're watching should probably avoid having the high glycemic fruits on a regular basis.

Me personally, I limit how much fruit I eat (sigh).  Even lower glycemic fruits have a lot of natural sugar and it breaks down into glucose pretty fast.  I also usually only eat a banana if I'm treating a low blood sugar.