Dear Prudence,
I’ve had a best friend for over 20 years, and she was planning a big birthday trip for me for my 36th birthday, and then just … bailed at the very last minute.
She blamed my partner for not communicating clearly enough (I saw the messages, and I’m still confused as to how “I bought the hockey tickets; let me know transportation and hotels and book them and I’ll pay” is unclear), and blamed me for not understanding because her cat has diabetes. There were multiple offers to help out, and the cancellation was very last minute (I was under the impression everything was good to go).
Well, there’s a band playing here that we’ve gone to see multiple times together, and was the reason we bonded in the first place. How do I tell her, or do I tell her, that I’m going? It’s where I live, about an hour from where she is now. I really do love her and she’s been messaging me a lot lately and I don’t want to burn our relationship to the ground. But I think maybe it’s already burnt. Please help!