Dear Prudence,
My daughter is getting married in February, and my husband and I are paying for a destination wedding for her and our soon-to-be sister-in-law. The trouble is that the venue is near where my mother’s two high school friends live, and she is pressuring us to invite them to the wedding. Why is this such a problem (aside from the fact that my daughter and her fiancé don’t know them)?
Because the wife is in the habit of getting shitfaced at special events and causing scenes while her husband … has issues with keeping his hands to himself. My mother is really needling us because she hasn’t seen these friends in years and says she wants to include them in my daughter’s special day. The last thing I want is for my daughter’s wedding to be marred by these two boors. How can I get my mother to stop pestering all of us?
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