Ugh you suck

Casadena

Dear Prudence,

I am currently in marriage counseling with my wife after she discovered my three-year-long relationship with another woman. After a lot of soul-searching, I truly want to make the marriage work and ended my affair with “Sandy” for good. The problem we have is Sandy’s son, “John.” Sandy has been a single mother most of her life and I am the only father figure he’s known. John and I developed a bond over the years and I feel as though it would be cruel to cut him out of my life because I am no longer in a relationship with his mother. My wife is adamant that she won’t stay in the marriage if I maintain any ties with either John or Sandy. I feel disappointed in her for not having the compassion to see John is the innocent victim here who needs my ongoing support. I’ve previously promised John I would always be a part of his life and I don’t want to go back on that. Shouldn’t my wife be more understanding of a child’s needs?

—Former Mistress’ Son

ei34

I feel for kids like John but WOW check you out finding a way to blame your wife the victim 

VarunaTT

levioosa

Hey LW, you're the worst. I hope John finds better parental figure than ones who cheat and then blame a spouse for it. 

banana468

Listen to yourself you insane f*ckwit.

You have two choices here.  You cannot be in John's life and have extricated yourself from the relationship.   It also speaks VOLUMES that you likely exchanged vows and made promises to your wife but somehow those pale in comparison to how you feel about the child of your affair partner. 

I hope you have a lot of salt to go with that pretzel you've twisted yourself into. 

flantastic

What the actual

MyNameIsNot

Oh yeah, that's the innocent victim. Not your wife, the person who you made vows to and broke. The person who's life has been destroyed by your selfishness. The person who is somehow trying to go through counselling and make things work with you even after you've treated her this way.

Screw you, LW.

charlotte989875

There’s zero accountability here. For the cheating, for how hard it will be on John. Blaming the wife for discovering the affair and for not letting him see John. This guy doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong. I hope she leaves you.

short+sassy

He's disappointed...in his WIFE.  Let me tell you something, pal.  She is exponentially more disappointed in your pathetic and sorry ass.

He doesn't even understand that he was the one who lied to John, a vulnerable child, when he told him he would "always be a part of his life".  How did he expect that was going to work?