Diwali Monday

ei34

Hope everyone had a good weekend!

ei34

Quiet/easy day here. Schools are closed in observance of Diwali, students are off and we have a conference but it’s remote which is amazing. I know it doesn’t feel like a big deal for some. But wearing cozy sweats while working will always be incredible to me lol. My own kids are off too, but have reached the age that they can handle themselves around here.

Weekend was nice. I had a fun early brunch with friends Saturday morning, the kids had the dentist, and then we went straight to a local No Kings rally.  The timing didn’t work out for the one in the city, the kids have never been and would appreciate seeing how many people think Trump is A Very Bad Person, but it’s unfortunately gotten kind of purple in the suburbs recently, so it was probably for the best we stayed local.

Went to a pumpkin patch yesterday for a couple hours early on and enjoyed. Made a bunch of chicken cutlets for the week and did some things around the house to round out the weekend. 

charlotte989875

Working & kids are in school, H left this morning for camp. Baby J is still not sleeping good- we got goodish results on his overnight oxygen test, he’s not having significant swings in his oxygen levels (great!) but he is having some drops that aren’t totally normal. They want us to see ENT again and somehow we got in tomorrow. I’m hoping we start to get some real answers soon. 

levioosa

At work today and it is so busy. Boo for having to come in on a Monday. 

Weekend was okay. I worked on Saturday, then we went to a No Kings rally. A decent turnout for our city which definitely leans red. I don't mean to be a debbie downer about it, but even though there were record turnouts, I just don't know how effective it will be to drive change. It's great to protest, don't get me wrong, but it doesn't feel like the No Kings protests have a coherent list of demands and the actual act feels hollow if it's not equally followed up with some other sort of activist movement. 

Yesterday was decent. Got to the gym and then H and I had an impromptu date night. 

SSDD this week. I am very very behind on getting things ready for the party on Saturday. 

MyNameIsNot

levioosa said:

At work today and it is so busy. Boo for having to come in on a Monday. 

Weekend was okay. I worked on Saturday, then we went to a No Kings rally. A decent turnout for our city which definitely leans red. I don't mean to be a debbie downer about it, but even though there were record turnouts, I just don't know how effective it will be to drive change. It's great to protest, don't get me wrong, but it doesn't feel like the No Kings protests have a coherent list of demands and the actual act feels hollow if it's not equally followed up with some other sort of activist movement. 

Yesterday was decent. Got to the gym and then H and I had an impromptu date night. 

SSDD this week. I am very very behind on getting things ready for the party on Saturday. 

This is what I'm struggling with. H and I had a long conversation last night about this. He is feeling really inspired and wants to go to every event and protest. I'm feeling so jaded and like it's not doing any good and nothing is going to change. I hate this. 

Otherwise weekend was ok. We've got another backpacking trip coming up, so I did a lot of preparing for that. And the new washing machine got delivered this morning, so I'm beyond excited to have already done 4 loads of laundry today. Sadly, I have to fold it all tonight. 

CharmedPam

Jam packed weekend. We hit St Augustine and Savannah already and on our way to Charleston. I don’t know if I can travel a week with this travel buddy. When it’s just us two, she takes control and it’s all about her. But in groups of 3+, she’s not like this. It’s like a total turn around. I AM having fun but I came here for all the rich history and all she wants to do is shop (she has a rich husband and unlimited funds, which probably makes it hella more fun than my situation). But as I was saying to my friend, I don’t think I could do this alone. I love travel but I need someone with me. There’s no perfect travel buddy, and I get that - but I can only take her in groups of 3 or more.  

MNNEBride

The weekend was okay. On Saturday, we took my Mom to a fundraiser dinner for an organization she's part of. It was in Bluff Country, so we took the scenic route and saw some fall colors. We used a sit/stand walker/wheelchair I had gotten for DH. It didn't work as slick as we'd like. I had trouble maneuvering it on the carpet. He got angry and frustrated in public, so yeah.  

Sunday, I did the piles of laundry we had. Then, I spent the afternoon doing a little yard clean-up and planting day lilies and tulip bulbs. I also ordered another peony and got that in the ground. I planted bulbs last year, and the squirrels dug them up, so this year, I put a "squirrel-proof" netting over them. We'll see how that works. If it doesn't, I'm done planting them. It's too much work with no results.  The Vikings lost, but the Packers won.  I also won my fantasy match-up - woohoo.  The neighbors brought us some Diwali sweets and had fireworks in the evening.  Unfortunately, the police came and shut them down.  I think they would have been OK with sparklers and ground fireworks, but they had some that were shot up in the air, which isn't legal here.

Yesterday was cool and rainy.  I worked and then did some cleaning/organizing in my office.  DH was good all day.  Then I came out to fix dinner, and he asked about where I planted the tulips.  I told him, and he went ballistic.  Started shouting about how he wanted them somewhere else, and I never listened to him, yada, yada, yada.  I planted them in the exact same place we had talked about, but he didn't remember that.  He was furious all night.  I finally went into the bedroom about 8:30 pm to be by myself.  We see his primary in mid-November and will need to talk about a medication change or something to help with his anger.  I know his disease is progressing, and it's so hard to live with.

Fortunately, he woke up and acted like nothing happened. I'll be curious to see if he stays like this through the evening, as I wonder if his mood is a part of sundowning.  

Caregiving is not for sissies!  We have friends coming from out of town this weekend, and it will be fun to spend time with them here.  We usually go there to visit.

levioosa

*Hugs* @MNNEBride

short+sassy

@ei34, I WFH two days a week and still think it's a big deal and awesome to work in comfy clothes!

Yesterday was one of them.  Unfortunately, my next door neighbors are getting their siding replaced.  It was SO LOUD that I briefly thought about going to the office instead.  Nah!  Wearing fleece lined leggings, even with the sound of nails banging and drills going, was still preferable to being at the office, lol.  Plus it was an extremely slow work day, so I binged Judge Judy episodes on my DVR.

My friend and I went to a Home and Garden show on Saturday then to a No Kings rally after that.  With a stop at a bar near the rally because we had a couple hours to kill before it started.  The bar had openly advertised that rally-ers were welcome to use their restrooms and get free water, so we felt good supporting them by buying drinks and food.  It was nice to be amongst a big crowd of people who were like-minded, at least on this issue.

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I was so annoyed last week and yesterday with how difficult it was just to cancel an appointment with a hospital.  I was diagnosed with hyperparathyroidism last year, which can only be treated with minor surgery or radiofrequency ablation (RFA).  The appointment was for an imagining scan of my parathyroid to see if I was eligible for RFA, but my endocrinologist warned me the scan may not show where the problem is because I have a mild case.

My phone was ringing off the hook Thursday with repetitive phone calls about these appointments.  I spent over an hour talking to various people.  One of them was a live person who told me my OOP cost was $1071.  The retail cost was over $4K!  For just an imaging scan that may not even work.  GTFO with that.  I also don't know how much the RFA procedure is but do know the total retail cost for the more traditional surgery is $12K.  But nobody, including insurance, can tell you OOPs until it's put through them (eyeroll).

I told her I wouldn't pay that much and to cancel the appointments.  She said my doctor's office needed to cancel the appointment because they were the ones who made it.  Never mind that I'm the patient telling them I won't be there.  Fine, whatever.  I called my doctor to do that.

Only to be psycho-called by the hospital's automatic system once more on Thursday and multiple times on Friday, trying to get me to confirm the appointment.  I cancelled it once through the auto system also.  Then I got another auto-call Mon. morning, as well as a text message.  The text was a new harassment method and I replied back to it with the cancel choice.  I immediately got a text message back that said I couldn't cancel it via text and needed to call "this" number.  JFC!  How many different times and ways do I need to cancel these appointments!?!?  I called the number and talked to another live person.  She was able to cancel my appointment and the psycho-calling finally ended.

So much time wasted and aggravation over what ended up being a moot point, because I'm not getting that procedure anyway smh.  At least not from them. 

CharmedPam

I’m so sorry @MNNEBride, you must be at your witts end
@short+sassy, ugh to our medical system!