Dear Prudence,
My husband’s family tends to overdo it when it comes to alcohol on special occasions, and they become loud and obnoxious. This is our year to host Thanksgiving, and my family looks forward to having wine with dinner. The difference is that they can handle alcohol consumption responsibly. I can’t see any way to enforce a rule where my family can drink while my husband’s family can’t. And I enjoy having some expensive wine for the holidays myself. Is there some way to walk this line without ending up with a houseful of drunks?
—Wallowing Over Wine