Dear Prudence,
My husband’s brother is creating problems between us. He lives alone and often checks on his health and does procedures that require him to be driven back and forth from the hospital. Although he has no problems financially, he is always asking my husband to be his chauffeur. I have never objected to that.
We live mainly in another state, but have yet to sell our previous house in another state, so my husband regularly goes there. I visit only occasionally. My husband is there now and received two packages from his brother with a coffee maker, the pods, and a note thanking him profusely for always taking care of him and being there for him.
I said to my husband that my BIL was very insensitive because the note should have been addressed to both of us. My husband helps him, yes, but I also allow my husband to go (each time a full day) when l could probably use his help at home for something. My husband disagrees. Your thoughts?