Tuesday

ei34

How's everyone?  Wishing all a good day!

ei34

Got it going but then got pulled away, lol

It's my long day at work, with a meeting after dismissal.  Should be fairly SSDD once home.
Today is exH's birthday, I gave the kids my phone on the car ride to school so they could facetime him.  It was..awkward.  They don't have anything to say to him.  He doesn't have anything to say to them.  (To be clear, he's the problem, not them.  Just mentioning that all they had to say was happy bday.) I bought him a ticket to their show this past weekend and sent him a dozen reminders, but he blew it off.  Sent him some great videos and he never reached out to congratulate them.  I can't believe he actively chooses to miss out on their lives.  
In happier birthday news, it's also one of my niece's birthdays- she's 4, which is one of my favorite ages  

CharmedPam

Booo @ei34
There’s something they/you could say “hey, where were you at my school’s production?”  What could be more important? 

My friends and I saw the Paris Hilton documentary on the big screen last night. Don’t see it! It was NOT what we thought it was. They touched up a bit on her younger years, and provo (and the tape I totally forgot about it) but it was basically just about her singing career. A concert. I didn’t even know she sang lol. I feel like her life could have been showcased a lot more.  I gave up a mystery horror movie for that. 

SSDD. i have someone coming to clean my place. They keep telling me that the size of my home needs more than 3 hours. 1,175 sq ft. It does not. You can clean my house in 3 hours. The one time someone couldn’t, I watched her and she was slow as molasses. That’s the thing with this hourly cleaning rate. I know and see fast workers and I know and see the slow ones. 

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Casadena

How awful @ei34. Good for you though for facilitating and encouraging the relationship as much as possible. 

Work is finally slowing down a bit thankfully, so can catch up on some of the smaller tasks that fall off the urgent list. Finally starting the fixes after all the foundation leaks and bathroom issues. Electrician came yesterday and replaced a bunch of wiring, fixtures, outlets and replaced the whole control box. Next is drywall in the office/family room/bathroom, then carpet downstairs and bathroom items. Cannot WAIT to have the house put together again. 

H and I are going back to couples therapy - it's been a long time coming and we have quite a lot of things to work through. So good vibes, etc are welcome if you have any to spare. 

charlotte989875

All the good vibes to you @casadena. If it’s any help at least he’s willing to go. That has to mean he’s at least willing to try.

Work is the opposite of slowing down here- just getting more and more chaotic. I’m working tomorrow but then J’s surgery is Thursday so I’m out the rest of the week. I may have deal with the stress of that by ensuring J would have an Elmo dressed as a doctor to when he comes home. 

ILoveBeachMusic

Good for you @ei34 for facilitating a relationship between you exH and your kids. He is a jerk for not wanting to be involved in their lives. Good vibes to you @Casadena.

We just got back to the apartment in Evanston. We spent Sunday night at DD's because SIL has a business trip this week. She works Mondays and Thursdays so we told her we'd be there to meet the Nanny. We left for Indy as soon as she left to take the boys to school. I had two doctors appointments today. We drove back here immediately after the 2nd one. It was so nice to be back in our house for the night. I got laundry done so I don't have to compete with the landlord to use the facilities here - at least for another week or so.

At the pre-op appointment I learned that I have to shower (2x/day) with a clean wash cloth and special soap the five days leading up to surgery. I also have to sleep on clean sheets night 5-1 and clean sheets again on the night before surgery. We are planning on going home on the 21st and my surgery is on the 24th. Now I'm considering going home a couple of days early just so I'm at home doing all this washing. I'll reread all the instructions I was given before making a decision.  At the spine doctor, I told him I wanted the surgery asap after my first one so we are aiming for the first week of April. He said it would be best to have it before my birthday when I go on Medicare. If I transition to Medicare prior to surgery, he'll have to resubmit everything and I might have to go through the whole PT, medications, surgery thing all over again. UGH!

CharmedPam

Good luck to you and H @Casadena, I hope it all goes well and you see him taking it seriously. 

No bueno @ILoveBeachMusic, fx you can get it alp done before your birthday then.