This is a dumb custom to begin with

Casadena

Dear Prudence,

I am a 65-year-old man and I have been great friends with a woman since sophomore year of high school. At age 20, I was invited to be a groomsman in her wedding. It was a great time. I flew home and went on with my life. MANY years later I found out that participants in weddings are supposed to pay for their attire. Never having done this before, I did not know this. After all this time I continue to be good friends with both of them and they have never said a word about it. Whenever I think of this, I feel bad. The next time I see them (they live in the next state over, about an 8-hour drive so it is not often). should I apologize and offer to pay them back? Or, after all of this time, should I not bring it up? Thank you for your insight.

—Not Sure What to Do

MyNameIsNot

OMFG, it's been 45 years. How do you even still remember this? They've surely let it go by now, if they were even expecting it. 

banana468

I bought my BMs dresses...

But 45 years later either giggle about it with them and give them an anniversary gift at the value of a tux rental or just LET IT GO. 

CharmedPam

You’d think the married couple would have brought up payment logistics at the time? They’re probably over it. Get over it. 

Casadena

I did too @banana468! I've never understood the custom in the US where the bridal party pays. But half a century later?? ridiculous. 

levioosa

I cannot. Let it goooo