Flushing Fracas

Casadena

Dear Prudence,

My mother-in-law, “Lynn,” is the cheapest person I’ve ever met. Recently, however, she’s developed a disgusting habit that she thinks will save money: She will use a toilet multiple times (thankfully only piss is involved) before flushing. It’s bad enough that Lynn does it at her place, but now she’s doing it at our house. Even worse, she’s now encouraging my 5-year-old son to do it as well! My husband says just to “humor her” and be mindful to check the toilets in our home when his parents visit and flush them as needed. Please say I have a right to insist that people who use my bathrooms flush after taking a leak!

banana468

"You're welcome to follow that practice in your house however here I insist that the rule is that we close the lid and flush after any and all deposits." 

I remember Lynda (lyndausvi) if any of you remember that when she lived in the USVI she said the line used was, "When in the land of fun and sun, you do not flush for number one." 

MyNameIsNot

One of my most eco-minded friends says "if it's yellow, let it mellow; if it's brown, flush it down." I'm not a huge fan, but it's not the most disgusting thing that LW makes it out to be. 

I think LW might be a little more able to get the H to run interference by talking to him about not wanting the kid to think he should be doing this when he's at school or a playdate and trying to get to a middle ground of do what you want in your house, but this is not what we're teaching our kid.