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Casadena

Dear Prudence,

My sister is having a destination wedding overseas in October. The trouble is that she wants me to be the maid of honor.  Not because of any affection for me (she’s always been Cinderella and I’m the Ugly Stepsister in the family), but because I’m an event planner. In addition to the typical maid of honor stuff, she wants to dump all the planning and coordinating on me. She has invited over 200 people to her wedding. I run my own business and cannot take the time off to facilitate such a large overseas event. I told her that I could be her maid of honor and would be happy to perform the usual duties, but she would need to hire a professional for the logistics regarding the guests. She pitched a fit in response. Now she says I’m out of the wedding party, and my parents are calling me “selfish.” At this point, I feel like skipping her wedding altogether. Good idea?

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Only the LW knows the actual bounds of the relationship.

If these were my parents I would be explaining that taking on your sister as a free client is not just gifting her the planning duties but it's actually a loss of revenue on your end as her event is during a prime time that you aren't recouping.   I think you can reiterate what is in your bandwidth for time and gifting to her and beyond that, you need to tell your parents that you are sorry they feel that way which is the nonapology of all nonapologies.