? Confused

snookums4clo

 I was orginally suppose to get married in June in Las Vegas but the money wasn't right so we moved it to October for a beach wedding. Well then I got laid off a three months ago and was not ready to get married this month either. So now I'm at a cross roads. I got a job now (yippe) but now I don't know when I should ask for time off without looking odd . I want to do my wedding in Feb 2011. I really want to go back to my first idea of Vegas but I also liked the beach idea I had also. I know Feb might be too cold for a beach wedding and I really like to go to Vegas but I like to go during the week because its cheaper but I don't want to ask for too much time off at a new job. I don't know if I should wait until I've been at my job for a year then schedule the wedding then. Now I can't even decide on Vegas or the beach. I'm open to all suggestions. 

erollis

I am confused too. What does your fiance think/ want? Maybe he can help you decide.
If you really want a Vegas wedding go for it. You could also use that as your honeymoon if you are short on cash. It is really up to you two.

[Deleted User]

I think you should plan a wedding according to what you can afford. If you guys go through with a wedding now, would you be financial okay with it when the day is over and done with?
Also, if you just started your job within the last month or so, I would have been a good idea to tell them at your interview or first few days that "hey I'm getting married in Oct and will need time off." Leaving it to the last minute, doesnt seem very professional.
Maybe you and FI should sit down and weight out your options as far as what you can do financially and with your schedules (work and personal).

ichellemay1

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[QUOTE]I think you should plan a wedding according to what you can afford. If you guys go through with a wedding now, would you be financial okay with it when the day is over and done with? Also, if you just started your job within the last month or so, I would have been a good idea to tell them at your interview or first few days that "hey I'm getting married in Oct and will need time off." Leaving it to the last minute, doesnt seem very professional. <strong>Maybe you and FI should sit down and weight out your options as far as what you can do financially and with your schedules (work and personal).
</strong>Posted by miss67c[/QUOTE]

This really makes the most sense right now.  I just started a new job myself and even though I'd probably only have to take 1 day off (we're getting married on a holiday weekend) - we are waiting a year.

loop0406

I would personally choose a holiday weekend (presidents day, MLK day, etc) where they give you a 4 day weekend at work, that way you can take the trip to vegas without asking for too many days off. Or leave early 1/2 day on the Thursday before holiday weekend.

TXsun

you might not want to do vegas in february either... its still cold there then.

I'd wait a bit, talk to your fiance. Also keep in mind that if you do a holiday weekend, both the beach and vegas will be packed...

banks69

I'm going to assume that your FI and you have had a discussion in my response.  I' really don't think that you should push your wedding date back because you may not be able to have the "perfect" wedding.  I'm speaking from experience when I say that the marriage is so much more important than a wedding.  Just to give you a little background:  my sister and her husband waited about two years before they got married - and he passed away 11 months and three weeks later. They didn't even get a chance to celebrate their first year anniversary together!  She said that if she had to do things over again, she would've gotten married sooner because you just never know what's going to happen in the future.  If the two of you are ready to be husband and wife, don't let superficial things like not having the "dream" wedding hold you back.

Just saying......

Oh, as for notifying your job about your wedding, I think the sooner the better - and then perhaps just share it with your immediate supervisor until you get closer to the date -if you want to share with the rest of your co-workers.  I am actually going through the same situation right now.

snookums4clo

Thanks everyone for your posts they really helped. I did cancel the wedding and I will reschedule sometime within the year. My FI doesn't care either way go fig (men) as long as I'm happy but I feel better waiting a while and not worring about having a wedding and then being broke afterwards. I just started my job last week so I will reschdule after my 90 probation and then I can have paid time off. Yippe! Also I can finish paying off my stuff for the wedding. Thanks everyone!