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Wedding 2 days..MIL & FIL MIA!

I need to vent. So yesterday we learned that my finace's mother will not be attending the wedding. Who's mother doesn't attend their child's wedding? This is CRAZY to me. His older sister backed out from coming last week and the younger sister was disinvited when she told me to kill myself...I had to curse her out and tell her she was not welcome. Now my fiance can't get in contact with the father (who happens to be the Best Man)...the last contact we had with him was 2 weeks ago and my fiance has been calling with no answer and even text with no reply or no call back at all. Like are the people freaking serious? The wedding rehearsal is tomorrow and we don't know if his Dad is going to show up. Then I've had two of my family member cancel coming because of medical reasons. At least they have a good excuse. I definitely can't stand this family and they are all screwing up my wedding. I purchased flowers for his mother and his father that was a waste of my freaking money & my programs will be screwed if his father doesn't show up. Has anybody else dealt with a family like this? Not to mention most of his relatvies never sent back RSVP cards and are not even coming because they can't afford to. His side of the asile will be basically empty.

Re: Wedding 2 days..MIL & FIL MIA!

  • edited December 2011
    I run the risk of sounding rude but.... so what? Your wedding is about gathering the people you love most to celebrate the begining of your new lives together. If they don't support it, you should not care whether they are there or not. So what if the programs are wrong? Or his side is empty? It will have no effect on the outcome that at the end of the day you will be husband and wife. 
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-houston_wedding-2-daysmil-fil-mia?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:121Discussion:56802bbc-8623-48a8-8461-63e3dd284041Post:ec48a991-2b9a-4f27-a729-3ee5b5234e41">Re: Wedding 2 days..MIL & FIL MIA!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I run the risk of sounding rude but.... so what? Your wedding is about gathering the people you love most to celebrate the begining of your new lives together. If they don't support it, you should not care whether they are there or not. So what if the programs are wrong? Or his side is empty? It will have no effect on the outcome that at the end of the day you will be husband and wife. 
    Posted by lauralee1[/QUOTE]


    I agree. It sucks that this is happeneing but like the PP said, in the end it is about you and your soon to be husband, not his family. When I started planning my wedding my mom was NOT happy and I had no idea if she would be there. IT was hurtful but in the end I realized that it is not about her. Just go on with everything like nothing is wrong.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-houston_wedding-2-daysmil-fil-mia?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:121Discussion:56802bbc-8623-48a8-8461-63e3dd284041Post:ec48a991-2b9a-4f27-a729-3ee5b5234e41">Re: Wedding 2 days..MIL & FIL MIA!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I run the risk of sounding rude but.... so what? Your wedding is about gathering the people you love most to celebrate the begining of your new lives together. If they don't support it, you should not care whether they are there or not. So what if the programs are wrong? Or his side is empty? It will have no effect on the outcome that at the end of the day you will be husband and wife. 
    Posted by lauralee1[/QUOTE]

    Completely agree!
    Your wedding is about you and FI. And the two of you getting married... not your future in laws. If they want to just not show up... their loss. You just enjoy YOUR day.
  • PJS001PJS001 member
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    edited December 2011
    The Friday before my Sunday wedding, my oldest sister flipped my middle sister's car. Completely totalling it and sending herself and my cousin to the emergency room. My cousin spent five hundred dollars to fly from New York to my wedding and she spent her whole vacation in a hospital room.

    However screwed up this was, it absolutely didn't make a difference on the day. The most important thing was the Chris was down the aisle waiting for me.

    As hectic and sucky as it may seem, don't let it get to you. If these people are choosing to miss out on this day, that is their fault not yours. You have done what you can by inviting them and making contact. Screw them if they choose to not come...

    Also, bump the next groomsmen up to Best Man and find someone who has a suit to be a groomsmen. It may suck but you gotta do what you gotta do. And if the father shows up to the wedding then he can sit with the rest of the family since he chose to ignore his duties as a father and a best man.
    And now we are as one
    Married February 20, 2011


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