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Kids or Not

kbval0512kbval0512
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Hello ladies, I'm having only my intermediate family kids at my wedding. That's basically my brothers and sisters kids. I don't want any kids at my wedding. Am I wrong for only allowing my nieces and nephews at my wedding. As majority of them are involved in the wedding anyways. We have a certain budget and I'm trying to make sure we stay within, also I don't want a whole bunch of kids wasting food even if it is simple food for the kids to eat. I'm terrified of something drastic happening at the wedding. As some people don't have a control of their kids that may be crying and etc. What do you think?
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  • loop0406loop0406 member
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    edited December 2011
    We're only having my 7 nieces/nephews (one is the flower girl). I don't see anything wrong with it.
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  • STBMrsMartinSTBMrsMartin member
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    edited December 2011
    No not at all. If I can do it over again I would have done what you did. I was overwhelmed by all the kids and they would not leave me alone. Don't get me wrong we love kids. It was very annoying for DH and I. It wasn't the really the crying or the amount of food it was just the craziness of it during the reception. I wasn't allowed for a good time. I always recommend to people if you can I would have an adult only reception.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    Eighth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    The only kids I want at my reception are the ones standing in my wedding. I know it can sound "mean" but it is about your own comfort at your wedding.
    We're having an "adult reception"
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  • cvgomez23cvgomez23
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    edited December 2011
    The only children at the actual wedding will be my flower girls. We're hiring  babysitter(s) to watch all of our relatives kids (approx. 15-23) that will be coming in from out of town.  Our reception has a large bridal suite that we will use for them and provide activities, tv, games and kid type food and snacks.  This way they will be in the same building but not at the reception... just in case...
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  • PJS001PJS001 member
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    edited December 2011
    I went to a wedding this past weekend that did exactly what cvgomez is suggesting. The bride paid to have someone babysit the children of people attending the wedding inside of the bridal suite. It turned out to be PERFECT because the kids were not in the way and the parents were close by in the case of an emergency. I know that the bridesmaids whose children were in the bridal suite were able to have a much better time without having to watch out for their little ones.

    So I think if you are worried about stepping on toes, perhaps suggest this to the parents of the children?
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  • akg0053akg0053 member
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    edited December 2011
    We're not inviting kids. We aren't even doing a flower girl or ring bearer. 

    See, our hour-long ceremony starts at 7. By the time that's over, it'll already be bedtime for a lot of my little cousins. Then, my FI was told by his sister that they aren't bringing FI's niece or nephew, so since even immediate family isn't coming we figured that not inviting other kids wasn't a problem either.

    The reception starts at 8:30 and goes until midnight, which is really too late for all of the kids in our family. So, we're not not inviting them at all. 

    To avoid issues on the RSVPs, we sent invites with only the parents names printed on the envelope, and we made RSVP cards that say "we have saved 2 seats in your honor" so hopefully RSVPing of kids will be minimized.
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  • jessienjeremyjessienjeremy
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    edited December 2011
    We have a couple of friends who have kids but most of them are older like 6 or so. If any go it will be maybe 4 tops so we arent too worried about it.

    I feel that if I am having a FG and RB I shouldnt say no kids..
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  • kbval0512kbval0512
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with you all, I just know that FI and I have a budget and a guest list count. If we allow our family members and friends to bring their kids then we will be spending more  money and over our guest count. We both come from a big family. My family is actually bigger than his family, so that would be over 25 kids under that age of 14 just on my side alone. So I think I'm going to stick to my guns and just allow my nieces and nephews attend wedding/reception. The only thing is how do I go about informing my guest that their kids aren't allowed in th wedding invitation? DO I say this is an intimate affair, no kids please? What is the correct way ladies? I need help?
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  • Eva77042Eva77042 member
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    edited December 2011
    That is perfectly acceptable & many guests will probably like it. If anyone complains about having to get a sitter, just explain that the vendor charges adult prices for all kids and the positive side to this is that the guests who came without their children can relax, have a drink or two & socialize without having to chase their kids.

    We on the other hand chose to have LOTS of little children at ours and many adults are complaining to us because we didn't make it an adult only reception.

    Your guests will probably enjoy your decision. Congratulations & Hope everything falls into place for you!
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