BM opinion

jen2013

hey girls, just a quick question!

FI & I have friends who are a couple. FI met Z when they were working with the same company a few years back and they have been friends ever since. Z was at the time not married, but was with his gf, T. Because of the boys, T & I became friends. FI & I were both party of their wedding party when they got married a year ago. T & I really dont talk as of her wedding a year ago, I guess have just grown apart.

FI is going to have Z as a groomsman, my question is would you have T as a bridesmaid?

Not sure if it would be rude to not include her since we were both part of their bridal party .. opinions? thanks!

monkeysip

Wedding parties aren't a tit-for-tat kind of thing, so just because you were a BM for her doesn't mean you have to choose her as a BM.  Just think about how much your friendship means to you.  I have a friend that I've kinda grown apart from over time, but our friendship is still very important to me, so I still want her by my side on my wedding.

Don't feel pressured to have her in the party just because you were in hers.  But if the friendship is important to you, then do it.  Also, I guess it depends upon how many BMs you are thinking of having.  I'm not saying there is any such thing as a "maximum number" of BMs, but if you already had 10, maybe you don't want an 11th.  It's totally up to you.