Kicking a Bridesmaid out

jurdiales

My youngest sister was going to be a bridesmaid but she wants to wear a short dress that shows lots of boobs, and expects me to pay for her hair and make up. Is it wrong of me to kick her out?

[Deleted User]

Its YOUR wedding, and I dont think its fair for ANYONE that is not the bride or groom to be throwing out decisions or "you need to do this/that"s in the mix.

IMO.

PJS001

I kicked my oldest sister out as a bridesmaid and it was the best decision I made. There will be repercussions though. My sister and I rarely speak anymore because of this and she has some serious hostilities because of it.

Just make sure you are making the right decision and talk about it with her.

HollyPW2011

I would just try to explain to her how you want the bridesmaids to dress before making such a big decision. It's just a dress and it's YOUR day, hopefully she would understand...

erollis

Are they all wearing different dresses? Why don't you just pick the dress and let her know when it needs to be ordered by. Make sure it's within her budget though. If she complains just tell her that is the requirement of being a bridesmaid, wearing the dress you picked. Not that hard to do. We have all done it before. As for hair and make up, if you want it professionally done by a certane person you should help pay for it. If she wants to get it professionally done, because you don't care if it's done professionally or not, she needs to pay for it. Edit: I wanted to second the kicking out someone has repercussions. So just keep that in mind.

monkeysip

Don't do it unless you want to seriously hurt your relationship with your sister.

Just from what you've named, it doesn't sound like she's that bad.  Just pick the dress (within her budget) and tell her to wear it.  That's it.  Let her do whatever she wants with her hair.  If you want something specific, you pay for it.

Also, it may be your wedding, but once you invite other people or ask people to be bridesmaids, you have to be considerate of others.  Is this an issue that is worth fighting with your sister over?

tyboyd

My youngest sister {on dad's side} and her sister {from her mom} were both kicked out of my vow renewal. I didn't look back and I was totally okay with the decision. At the end of the day, all that mattered was that DH and I were there. They didn't even show up. And that was 2 less BM jewelry and gifts to buy.

lewisc2002

i laid down the rules early with my kid sister: No cleavage or knees. I let her pick the dress, but told her if she showed up to the ceremony showing either of these, she was out, no questions asked. good thing she listened . . . . 

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Yeah...I would set the ground rules and tell her that she can choose if she wants to follow them but she needs to let you know by whatever date!