Bridal Shower Question

xtinagraphics

Is anyone having more then one shower? I'd like to have only one but my future mother inlaw would like to plan one for just her side. It would only be around 50 people if we had them together...

jcorvese

im likely having two. but my fiance is from across the country.
my best friend had two- but she had to travel 6 hrs for one and said it was a pain-- plus iit was with his entire family, and she knew very few people there....

I think it would be more comfortable to just have one large one. and a good change to get to know everyone.

If you do have a second I would make sure the bridesmaids were invited. this is just my personal opinion because we werent invited to the 2nd one, and i thought it was rude... so i  suggest if you have 2, you invite them-- just mention they dont have to buy you a 2nd gift.

JessiTess

I had one with about 55 - 60 people in attendance, it was a bit overwhelming, but since I'm currently living about 1000 miles from our families, it would have been a huge pain to have two.

Is there a specific reason that you're FMIL wants to have a separate one?

If the two families live far from one another, than I think it makes sense, you can't expect half your guests to travel hours for a shower.  But if there is no real need for it, than it seems a bit silly.  My mom and FMIL worked together to plan mine, and it worked out fine.  The point of the marriage is a joining of the two families, so unless there is a specific need, such as distance, for the showers to be separate, I'm not sure why you wouldn't just combine them.  In the end it will save everyone money and time.

xtinagraphics

Thanks ladies, I feel the same way. Our entire families are local so there's no reason why they shouldn't be combined. My FMIL told me that's how it's always done, one for the brides family and one for the grooms family. That just seems completely strange to me. I'll have to find a polite way to bring it up again...

i2012do

thats very traditional to have too.
My mom said when she got married, each side threw one and then the bridesmaid threw a thrid for the friends. Thats insane.

Itll be more economical anyway.

BTW- I posted earlier under JCorvese.  I changed my user name.

devcipps

I had one shower for both sides of my family. It just wasn't practical for me to make two separate trips up north for two different showers.

jmorta04

I'm having one shower with both sets families and friends, but my friend had two showers last year.  As a bridesmaid, it was a PITA to travel to both within a month of each other (in addition to the engagement party 3 months before) and both locations were several hours away.  I would of course do anything for my friends, but it ended up being more of a hassle than anything else.