Vows on programs?

kenneyjn

Hello all! I'm new to this all and have JUST started planning. I am wondering if it is taboo to write the vows out in your program so everyone can read them, since it is often hard to hear them? Has anyone tried this or seen it done, and what were the responses to it?

AddieCake

Are you writing your own vows?  If not, I think most people know the vows or the gist of them and putting them in the programs isn't necessary. I'm not a fan of programs to begin with, though. 

kenneyjn

AddieL73, yes we are writing our own. Knowing both of us, we will be blubbering our way through them and I'm sure people won't be able to hear. My sister just go married and she and her husband had BEAUTIFUL vows but I was one of the few that heard them...

Jen4948

If you are not getting married in a more traditional context, or you're getting married outside a "mainstream" Christian ceremony and there will be many guests who are not familiar with what your ceremony will be like, I think that while it isn't necessary to put them in a program word-for-word, explaining them in a more general sense in the program will be helpful to your guests.

AddieCake

Well, if you're writing your own, I guess I can see where that would be nice if you don't think people will hear them. 

LittleMissBridezilla

Kenneyjn, that sounds wonderful. My FI and i went to a wedding last spring where the couple had personalized vows and We were EXTREMELY close, but they had no sound system at all because the wedding venue was so small (maybe 50 x 50) and I couldn't tell you even one word they said so my FI and I made up our own vows that we thought they were saying and it was pretty comical (I should say it was a pretty ghetto wedding and we didn't really WANT to go but felt bad)

misssunshine17

Honestly, I think it's a little too personal. I would not enjoy reading, as an outside party, the vows that are supposed to be from one person to another, not the masses. It's one thing to hear them being said to each other, but another to read them. 

Also, people will read the program before the ceremony so they'll already know what you'll say before you actually say it. This would be my bigger issue. 

AdeleDazeem

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[QUOTE]Honestly, I think it's a little too personal. . 
Posted by misssunshine17[/QUOTE]

This is how I feel.  I guess that seems hypocritical in light of inviting everyone to watch you marry and say these vows to each other, but writing them down so you are sure that every last person knows exactly what you said to each other is just too much to me. 

HobokensFury

I wouldn't because I wouldn't want to know what DH was going to say in advance. 

Barbiiieee

I think it is a nice idea, but I wouldn't want to know what my FI was going to say before he said it, you know? And what if you changed your mind or wanted to add something last minute?

That said, as a wedding guest, I would think it was beautiful.

Idio

Its a cute idea, especially if you want to share your vows with everyone. However, be mindful of the fact that the surprise of your ceremony would be lost slightly with everyone being able to read the vows (to me the best part of a ceremony) before you even walk down the aisle. 

kenneyjn

Thank you all for your help! I would definitely work out a way to "submit" our vows to a 3rd party and maybe just have them somewhere at the reception for guests to read if they please?

vexie

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[QUOTE]Thank you all for your help! I would definitely work out a way to "submit" our vows to a 3rd party and maybe just have them somewhere at the reception for guests to read if they please?
Posted by kenneyjn[/QUOTE]

I like this idea much better than writing them in the program.    Vows are my favourite part of a ceremony and I think it would lose the sentiment, sweetness etc to read them ahead of time for some reason.  Maybe it's just me though....  

jenn5628

What if you had your '3rd party person' type them out, but somehow offered them to your guests after the ceremony was over? Like, on a table at the cocktail hour.  Then, it won't have ruined the surprise for your guests, but if they like, they can take it home for a souvenir?