This might be a little dramatic. Sorry kids.
Last summer, we found our venue and booked our site, really excited about our medium-sized wedding. Our venue holds a full 50 people more than we were really expecting, so we thought it would be perfectly sized. We even figured we could be free from all the guest list drama most people have because seriously 2/3rds of the list are from different states (read: "two days or more drive away", not "Massachusetts") because we aren't from here. But we were still really conservative w/ the list....
Then, we realized that we both have big, close families. When we were writing our save the dates, FI and my mom kept ADDING MORE people when many STDs had already been sent. I will be the first to admit, it got out of control.
Now, we are preparing our invitations (which look great! I'm so excited!)... and we are about to invite almost 50% MORE people than our venue actual holds. Granted, half the list are people that my mom swears won't come (but we still have to invite them because we're southern and that's what we do, I know it doesn't make sense). But now, unless I think of a genius idea, we're going to need 1/3rd of our list to decline in order to FIT in our reception space. Even with a large out of town contingent, I feel really stressed out about this. Our wedding suddenly feels very big (not something I was interested in), and omg, what if we go over our capacity?!
Brides who are still refining your guest list: DO NOT DO THIS. Other people (the love of your life, your mother, you know..... people you trust) will tell you it's OK to over-invite. It's actually a really stressful thing to do... and potentially awful if you end up with RSVP's over your limit. Hopefully, I won't learn this last thing from experience.
Brides who maybe have been in this situation: help! What did you do? I know this is a horrible idea, I just feel bad because people with save the dates are -expecting- invitations. I'm trying to avoid an A list, B list situation, but I feel like it's our only option.