Giving the rings to our ring bearer. Is this crazy?

FlintstonePearl

My officiant suggested using fake rings for the ring bearer to carry down the aisle. I've read other bride's posts about fake rings, too.

This strikes my FI and me as a bit over the top. Our 6-year-old ring bearer is walking 50 paces from the back of the church to the alter. Is there really a risk he will get mugged or lose the rings during a 30 second walk in front of our closest friends and family?

Am I crazy to give our ring bearer real rings?

GoodLuckBear14

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[QUOTE]My officiant suggested using fake rings for the ring bearer to carry down the aisle. I've read other bride's posts about fake rings, too. This strikes my FI and me as a bit over the top. Our 6-year-old ring bearer is walking 50 paces from the back of the church to the alter. Is there really a risk he will get mugged or lose the rings during a 30 second walk in front of our closest friends and family? Am I crazy to give our ring bearer real rings?
Posted by FlintstonePearl[/QUOTE]

Would you trust a child to be able to get them down the aisle without dropping them?  I wouldn't.  If you tie them to the pillow, someone is going to have to untie them at the altar.  If they are not tied...well...have you ever dropped a ring on tile or hardwood?  Those little buggers are off to the races.

Summer2011Bride

Ditto GLB. I wouldn't worry about someone stealing the rings at all but I would be concerned about the RB accidentally dropping them, them rolling off and not being able to find one or both. I would personally have the officiant or honor attendants hold the real rings and have the RB walk down with fake rings.

mmmendi

My RB is 3, so while yours may not take off at a dead run yelling 'Can't catch me!!!!' (my first thought when FI suggested my nephew) the PP are so right about the unforeseen drops - or even stage fright

lostmykeys

We had the ring bearer carry the real rings...not on a pillow but in a small wooden box.  It worked really well because we were going for a medieval feel for the wedding. 

artbyallie

Our ringbearer had the real rings. He was 6, and the rings were tied in a book with a hole cut in the pages. Our best man untied them. We had no incidents.

That said, by chance and freak accident, the ringbearer also happened to be in a wheelchair due to a thigh-high cast, so I suppose that did limit his mobility somewhat... if it had happened that he caused problems at the wedding, my coordinator would have gotten our rings to us.

rascal17

We are letting our 3 year old son hold the real rings. Ours are going to be tied to a teddy bear (which he'll get right before he walks down the aisle) and when he gets to the front we will have someone untie them and hand have them ready to go(or pass them to my MOH or FI BM) by the time the officiant asks for them (so we arent fumbling with the bear after she asks for them). 

soontobespitzer

I too was surprised to hear of this tradition thought people were just being silly but I've been talking with friends it seems as though almost every wedding I have been to they had fake rings! I never even noticed that the ring bearer didnt have to wait at the front while rings were being untied. So while our rings are relatively cheap I think we decided to do fake rings too, just safer in case the ring bearer trips just because I dont want one of the WP standing at the front trying to untie the rings awkwardly, seems like it would take away from the ceremony. Personal choice though!

2012FutureMrsB

We had this debate at my rehearsal. I really wanted the RB to carry the real rings. He's my nephew and he was abou 6 years old and quite capable of carrying them (and they were tied on) but my wedding planner insisted not to take the risk, so I gave in and went with her plan to carry fake rings.

But the day of the wedding, this plan still irked me. Why on earth would he carry fake rings? To me, the whole thing seemed fake. Why carry the rings at all if they're not the real ones? It's pointless. So I stood up for myself and said he's going to carry the real rings! It worked out perfect. My wedding planner was nervous, but my whole family assured her it would be find and it was. The bestman untied them at the front, NBD.

I'm sooooo glad I went with my instincts on that one b/c the presentation of the rings was very important to me.

babe915

I've seen people give the ring bearer the real rings no biggie. I've also seen it where the ring bearer walks down the aisle with the pillow and no rings at all, just the pillow (idk what the point is of that though).