way to honor mothers other than the "rose ceremony"?

peaceistheway

i like the idea of honoring the mothers... but is there a gesture tha honors both mothers and fathers? its sweet, and im not bashing the symbolic handing off of a rose... but for me personally... its a little cheesy, and not as from-the-heart as i'd like.

any unique suggestions??

trix1223

I'm going to answer this as someone who's been both MOG and MOB in the last 5 years.

I didn't need to be "honored" during the ceremony.  It was my great honor already to be the mom of the handsome groom and beautiful bride.  I had my moment of walking down the aisle as the "mom of the....." and it was lovely.

Watching our son's proud face as he watched his bride come toward him meant more to me than any trinket or memento that they could have given me.  Watching our DD walk down the aisle on the arm of her dad, the two of them smiling at a private joke was something I had dreamed about for a long time.

Nothing could have been better than that.

If you must do something for your mom, write her a handwritten, personal letter about what she means to you.  Tell her how much her help has meant to you in preparing you for this moment in your life.   Then give her the letter on the morning of your wedding.

A "memento" is nice, but she'll keep that letter for the rest of her life.  I know I will. 

Nati05

Sorry, are you looking to honor mom? Or both parents at the same time?

Either way, that's a beautiful idea! A personal letter, something written for her to keep (or them if you're gearing towards both.) I also plan to walk down the aisle with both my father and mother... for me, my mother should be there more than anyone, and I know she feels the same way and will appreciate it. Also I know some brides are opting for a mother-daughter dance. It's really all up to you, there are billions of things you could do to honor mom (and dad at the same time if the case.) It doesn't have to be traditional, neither over the top. Just keep it personal for you both. Good luck!

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I think a short speech at the toast about your respective parents would be a good way.
I'm thinking hard on this topic because both my parents and my fiance's are bitterly divorced (mine since I was 5 and no, they're STILL not over it). So I've heard nothing but "I can't believe you're letting your father walk you down the aisle" to which I've wanted to have him do so just to spite that notion...but no I'm walking myself I think.

Anyway, about you. You can find a short reading to do, or maybe light 4 candles (or two, one representing just "our fathers" and one "our mothers") or something. I didn't see the honoring parents at any weddings I went to during the ceremonies, so you could skip it all together.

Trix, love the idea of the notes! I think I will write 4, one for each! Thanks for the great idea!

teachermegs

I had both my parents walk me down. I did a dance with my dad and H did with his mom.