Deceased Mother of the Bride

maribeth721

Hello All,
I am trying to figure out a way to incorporate my Mom into my wedding. My Mom passed away when I was 16. While that was 9 years ago (will be 10 years ago by the time my wedding is here) I would like to include her in some way, without it being over the top. The process has been very emotional without my Mom here - I never realized what a "mother/daughter" experience planning a wedding is. Does any one have any suggestions in how I can honor my Mom at our wedding? I was thinking maybe a small table off to the side with her picture, a poem, and her favorite flowers, but I'm not sure if that's too much. I welcome any suggestions!! Thank you!!

buttercup5982

My mother passed away almost 3 years ago. I'm glad that I found this thread. I've been trying to come up with something to honor/remember her since she won't be there with me. 

I was think of at least leaving a seat empty for her during the ceremony and possibly placing a flower in the seat as I walk down the aisle. I at least have my mom's wedding and engagment rings to wear. 

shanliann

My mother passed away 4 years ago. and since then my father basically wants nothing to do with me.(Long Story) I for sure want my mom honored, and "part of" my special day, however, my wedding is a happy day and i don't want that to change! we are going do a small little round table(like night stand size) with a candle, and a couple pictures of me and my mom. I am also not going to do a bouquet toss, im going to take my extra bouquet to the cemetary.

I do not think anyone should need permission to honor there own parent, and i think your family should assume you will be honoring said parent, and be prepared for it. However, to prevent any sudden out burts of emotion from family, i would suggest just casually bringing uo your intentions to your family so they are prepapred, if they don't like it, tough, but at least they are prepared.

I've told my moms sister and her kids "oh i am planning to do this, and this to honor my mom" so they are prepared and know it will be there but if they would have said its a bad idea, i would do it anyway!!!

So glad im not the only bride on here whos lost there mother. makes me feel alot better!!