Both parents walk the bride down the aisle?

spiderdianne

I'm  best friends with both my parents, Mom and Dad, and want them both to walk me down the aisle.

They're still married, so bad feelings between them is not the problem. The issue comes in my Dad's shock when I broached the idea... I'm now worried that I've hurt my Dad's feelings in proposing that they both walk me down the aisle.

I really want them both to do it. But I really don't want Dad to feel hurt, or that I'm taking his part in the ceremony away... Any suggestions for a happy medium sort of thing?

lalap69

Talk to him about it.  Explain that it's becoming more popular and that because they're both so important to you, it's important that you have them both with you as you walk down the aisle.  He's probably always imagined walking you down the aisle solo and is surprised.  Give him time to get used to the idea and make sure that he understands that it's not a mark against him.

tldh

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[QUOTE]I'm  best friends with both my parents, Mom and Dad, and want them both to walk me down the aisle. They're still married, so bad feelings between them is not the problem. The issue comes in my Dad's shock when I broached the idea... I'm now worried that I've hurt my Dad's feelings in proposing that they both walk me down the aisle. :( I really want them both to do it. But I really don't want Dad to feel hurt, or that I'm taking his part in the ceremony away... Any suggestions for a happy medium sort of thing?
Posted by spiderdianne[/QUOTE]

This is dad's spotlight.  Instead of coming right out and asking him, you probably should have dropped it into conversations.  How does you mom feel about this?

tenofcups4me

Ditto  lalap. He probably just never thought about it, but since they both raised you, it really does make so much sense to have them both walk with you. He probably just needs time to get used to the idea.

AllyR75

i would just talk to him about it and say to him what you said here...i'm sure he'll understand. He probably didn't understand the reason for it.

2dBride

In Jewish ceremonies, it is traditional for the groom to be escorted by both his parents, and the bride to be escorted by both of hers, and many nonJewish couples are picking up that tradition.  It feels more like both of you remembering where you came from, and less like the bride is "given away" like a piece of property.

MelonGirl2498

I am having both of my parents walk me down the isle. They divorced when I was 6 and my dad was in and out of my life until my early 20's. I thought it was nice of me to ask him to walk me down the isle but he was upset that I had also asked my mom. Personally I think he should be thankful that I asked him at all. My mother played the roll of both parents for a long time. Bottom line is you just need to talk to your dad about why you want both of your parents. Our mom's gave birth to us so I don't see how they don't have just as much of a right to give us away as our father's do. I'm sure your dad will understand, he was probably just caught off guard.

Frecks22

You can definitely have both or just your dad or even just your mom walk you down the aisle.

I would absolutely talk to your dad and let him know how you're feeling and ask him his thoughts.  Another suggestion to have both of them involved, is to have your father walk you down the aisle and have your mom and FMIL light the candles for a unity candle ceremony.  Don't forget, your dad also gets the father-daughter dance to share in another special moment.

amartillo

An idea I may try is to walk out with just my dad and have my mom wait for us in the middle of the rows. When we reach her we'd walk together upto the front row where we'll drop off mom then dad and I will proceed to the alter to meet my groom

manateehugger

@amartillo

Please check the date of threads before you post. This thread is nearly 4 years old. The original poster is probably married and long gone by now.