Unity Candle

czabonick

I love the unity candle lighting and really want to do some form of it at our wedding.  I know that usally the mother of the bride and mother of the groom light the candles.  Any suggestions on how we can do this withot my mother?  She passed away years ago.  I really want to do something like this, though.
Also, any suggestions on ways to honor my mother and my (also deceased) sister?  We're getting married on my sister's birthday, but I want to do something special to remind everyone that they're here with us on our special day.  Thanks!

Hilraythebride

I thought the unity candle was for the couple to light?  Two becoming one?  Also for your deceased mother and sister I would say find a picture of both of them and have it made small enough to put in a little picture frame for a bouquet charm.  I am doing this with a picture of my grandfather.  You could also put a picture in front of a candle.  I am not doing the whole empty chair thing I am just going to also honor my late uncle with a picture and candle at the WPs table next to my sister (MOH) and I.

Pburke2010

The two moms usually light the smaller candles, and then the bride and groom take their respective candles and light the big one.  

I would have another female that you are close to light it, maybe a godmother or aunt that you are close to.  Or what about your father? 

Pictures and candles are the usual for remembering a loved one.  Just don't go over the top with it, you want people to remember them on your wedding, but you don't want anyone upset or crying.  

whitney37354

Either have your father light it or have an usher light both of them.