In-law invitation wording???

jedaniel

Ok so on my invitation i am going to have "mr and mrs smith request your presense at the wedding of their daughter blah to blah". so my questoin is should put his parents names on the invtation after his name? (blah to blah son of mr and mrs jones) they are not hosting/paying for ANY off the wedding my parents are paying for the entire thing. i know thats kind of confusing so if you have questions i will try to explain better.

Mrs.Purdue

paying and hosting are 2 separate things... hosts go on the wedding invitations, so if his parents are going to be anything but guests at the wedding, then I would put them on it.  if they're just planning on showing up like everyone else and won't be helping people get around town, fielding questions (where'd you register?  where are the hotel blocks, etc), then you might want to leave them off, but honestly, i'd put them on there - a little good will will go along way to start your relationship off on the right foot! 

you can also ask your FI to talk to his parents and ask if they would like to be included on there.  that might make the decision for you. 

oh, and your wording is correct - it's not nearly as confusing as mine was!  parents divorced and both remarried plus his parents too.  my mom threw a fit at the idea of "along with their parents", so we listed all 6 people on there (8 if you count us!)

akg0053

What Mrs. Purdue said. 

I also understand confusing invite wording. Both of our parents are divorced. My dad had a girlfriend of 20 years (they weren't even common law married because they didn't meet several requirements according to the state) that would also be hosting. Then FI's dad got a second divorce, and his mom, original step-mom, and new soon to be step-mom all wanted to host as well. FI's mom is also remarried. Now, they aren't paying for anything, but they have all specifically offered to host. 

So that would be both of our names, my mom's name, my step-dad sort of thing (mom never technically re-married either but he said he also wanted his name on there), my dad, my step-mom sort of thing, FI's mom and step-dad, and FI's dad and three of his moms.

For those keeping count, that's a total of 12 names. We are clearly doing "together with their families" which people were annoyed with, but they got over. I'm not putting 12 names on the invite!

lleavell

You've got it right.  If they were paying/hosting, it would be 

"mr. and mrs. smith and mr. and mrs. jones request the honour of your presence at the the marriage of their children blah and blah."  

Using the "son of" wording is totally acceptable though a little less traditional--the traditional wording sort of implies that you still belong to your parents until you get married but he's his own person.

We are not putting my in-laws on the invitation and they don't care.

jedaniel

Thanks ladies, thats solves it. I appreciate yalls help!!!!

lindswhite16

Im in the same situation and don't know what to do!!!!!!